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Can you accept your ex-girlfriend back even though she cheated?

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Candass (Age:18 to 24)     When: 3 months ago
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I was with my boyfriend for 2 years and a half. We had our good times and great times. Though, about a month ago, times were going bad because I lost my job. We began to get into little agreements all the time. I decided to take a break and he agreed. (it was more like giving each other some space for about a month) well the break started and two days after I cheated on my boyfriend. I felt bad and I wanted to tell him. He found out about a month later, which was five days ago from today, and he said it was over. It is hard to get over him. I love him so much. I tried my best to let him know that I was at fault and I made a mistake. I apologized and I told him that I truly lost the love of my life. His last words to me was that, "he can not trust me so the relationship can not work and that he hoped I find someone new and better. We're done"

My question to you guys and girls, mostly guys, is would you take your girlfriend or boyfriend back even though they cheated?

What if your girlfriend or boyfriend had explained to you that they made a mistake and really sincerely apologized truly?

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ns-para (Age:30 to 35)      When: 17 days ago
It all depends. My fiance left me because she cheated and now, two months later, she is missing me and wants back but I am having a hard time figuring out how to go forward. I love her like mad; we've been together six years! I'm the one in the process of ending it now and she's chasing me now.

But the heart of the matter is that I want her back, and so long as she says the right things to me and we can get some help and work through this, then I will take her back. I love her, and I think she messed up big time and she's just starting to realize that.

Who knows, this will either mean I go on and get over this heartbreak and find a new, more trustworthy partner (such as your boyfriend sounds like he is doing), or we make our relationship stronger than it was before (which is the only way to get over it.think about why you took a "break" in the first place.breaks and relationships are not good things).

Best of luck.give him some space but every now and again call him up and let him know how you're feeling.
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Anonymous User (Age:25 to 29)      When: A month ago
My ex-girlfriend cheated on me after 2 years. There's no way I would take her back because I can never trust her fully again. But she was my best friend and no matter how hard I tried to hate her I just couldn't. I talk to her now and we're friends and I know she misses me, she's told her friends. I often think about getting back with her but in my heart I know that we ever did get back together and I was ever in a situation where I could cheat would I say no?
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7ronaldo17- (Age:18 to 24)      When: 3 months ago
I believe that every one should deserve another chance I mean every one makes mistake no one is perfect in this world so go ahead and tell him that it was a mistake and tell him how you really feel from the the heart.
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Superstrength79
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Superstrength79 (Age:25 to 29)      When: 3 months ago
No, I wouldn't accept a cheater back. Your ex not forgiving you is probably the best final gift he could give you as well. Now that you know cheating can end up forever ruining a good thing, you'll be less likely to do it in the future.
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good-looking-geek
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good-looking-geek (Age:18 to 24)      When: 3 months ago
Cheating is not exactly a "mistake." You had to knowingly cross several boundaries and opportunities to stop and think. You first; had to approach and or flirt with the other guy, second; make out with him, third; go someplace where you two are alone, fourth; take your clothes off, and last; you knew what you did after that. That's 5 opportunities where you knew what you were doing but decided to continue anyway. That's five opportunities where you could have stopped and thought about your real boyfriend who "is the love of your life," but you didn't. He cannot trust you again.

You knew what you were doing, and if your ex-boyfriend is smart, he knows too. Apologizing is just words without meaning. You truly weren't thinking about him; you were only thinking about yourself. By cheating on him, you willingly, knowingly, consciously, unmistakably threw him away.
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Just-A-Random-Guy
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Just-A-Random-Guy (Age:18 to 24)      When: 3 months ago
Wow! Great job! You must be very proud of yourself. After two years you betray him like that? Do you know how much hurt you have put on him? This man will never be the same after what you have done. You do not deserve to be with him. You should just be happy that you were able to spend two years with him. GIRLS (not women, you are NOT a woman yet) like you are the reason guys are afraid of getting committed.

Now on the positive side you can screw anyone you want without any repercussion. This guy will definitely not take you back, and if he does I guarantee you that it won't be the same. If I were him, I'd definitely not talk to you at all. Ever. So you might as well move on.

Use this mistake as a learning experience and NEVER do it again. I've heard the expression once a cheater always a cheater, but if the past event really meant something to you you WILL make sure to never repeat your mistake.

Do you feel bad? Imagine how he feels.

One final question: What were you thinking?

-Just A Random Guy
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SeanE (Age:18 to 24)      When: 3 months ago
To answer those questions, I would say that I will look at how our relationship has been in the past, and if I deem it at least satisfactory, I would take you back only if you're really sorry and apologize to me in the way that makes me see you're really sorry; although I'd still punish you in some way :D
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Question Asker Thanks Sean. Our relationship was great in the past that's what hurts so much. you never know how good you have it until you don;t have it any more. I know I will move on and maybe find someone better and never make those mistakes again. Slowly but steadily my heart will go on.
Thanks again!
Candass - 3 months ago

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Jarett (Age:25 to 29)      When: 3 months ago
Two days after you decided to go on a break you cheated on him? Two days is not very long. Things don't just happen, and no I wouldn't take back my girlfriend if that happened. We don't just do things. Before we ever act, there is always thoughts, and then most of the time, we even imagine doing something before we ever act. But in this case, I wouldn't take you back, sorry, just giving you my honest answer.
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Question Asker Thanks for being honest. It hurts me that I hurt him but maybe one day in life he and I can be friends. Thanks a lot! :)
Candass
- 3 months ago
Answerer Well we all make mistakes hun. But it's just important to realize that trust is 100% or nothing. You can't' trust someone 80%. He doesn't trust you, and he probably never will. You screwed up. But we all do. So you learn from your mistakes and you make the proper adjustments. But yes it will hurt, it always does. But you will land on your feet hun. And you will be a better person because of it. - 3 months ago
 

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Marie21
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Marie21 (Age:Under 18)      When: 3 months ago
I would take my boyfriend back after a while . But it would really depend on if he apologized and meant it . If he cheated on me and just went "i'm sorry" I'd wouldn't take him back . But if he showed up at my house with my favorite flowers and movie and said "I'm sooo sorry baby, You were the best thing that ever happened to me . " I'd think long and hard, but most likely take him back . He he really loved you, even the littlest bit at all during the time you dated, he should understand and take you back .

But he may be really hurt if he did love you that much . He may feel like he can't trust you anymore and wonders if he takes you back if you'll do the same thing again . I'm sure you won't, but the other person never knows, making it hard for them to forgive, and even harder to forget .
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