My girlfriend of 2 years cheated on me. It all started on a day a couple of friends and us went to the bar. She wanted to hang out with my best friends girls. So they were dancing and drinking, then I saw them talking and eventually dancing all together. I have a bit of an anger problem I have been working on. So I was very pissed when I saw this and she knew it. I wanted to beat the S*** out of this guy who was about 5'6 and 140#. I am 6'1" and 260# but my father was a champion boxer and taught me how to fight. Very well. But I did not start a fight. I instead went over and told him she was my girl and wouldn't go home with him. He was so drunk I don't even think he remembers. She was pissed also and wanted to leave. So we did. After that she was going to stay at my best friends house for a few days because of a family members medical problem. So because this was a planned event for a week I told her to go. Then I found out when she came home 2 days later she and the guy from the bar had done coke and stayed up all night drinking and eventually she slept with him. I immediately wanted to break up with her but I don't know what to do. I still love her but it is the TRUST think that I don't know will ever be the same. Just to let you know I did coke for 3 years and it F***** me up. I didn't know it can cause cancer and it did but its all good now. She stayed with me through all the cancer problems. She has never done coke b4 so she had wanted to try it. She bought it and. You know the rest. Keep in mind this is the most serious relationship I have ever been in. I just don't know what to do. As for that guy at the bar. He is still in the hospital. 3 days now. With a shattered jaw, severe lacerations to the head, and 3 broken ribs. I told him I wanted him to hit me and he swung first but he missed. I hit him 5 times, then 1 kick to the ribs. Hey he can't fight. I can. She doesn't even know about the fight. I made her delete all the info in her cell about him and told her I wasn't going to pay for it again. Please if you can help me respond to this.
Ummm. Well, it sounds like have some anger issues as Not so Bad said. Fighting is not the answer even if you can. She needs help with drugs if she is not doing them. She cheated which will now fuel your anger when you go out together. If you love her and you see a future with her, then you guys need counseling. You're right, things will never be the same because she cheated and you beat him up. You need to think about if she is worth all of the grief she caused you and the other guy.
Wow I'll make sure I never fight god damn well that's the thing if you think you can forgive her then you should try but its not easy because you will forgive her but she will say she's going out and that thought will come back to your head she did it once she mite do it again it will be hard to trust her again at least it would before me.
I think that if you can truly forgive her in your heart and things can move forward then stay with her. I would be a little more worried about her getting hooked and since you were hooked you know the pain first hand. Yeah she only tried it, but I would talk to her about it. It really doesn't make any sense to me if she saw first hand what it can do to a person, and then just dives in. Maybe someone can explain this to me. But I guess the bottom line is if she is willing to put it behind her and tell you that she is sorry and really mean it and you are willing to do the same thing, then it should be water under the bridge.
We have decided to try to work things out.......and now she seams sweat as pie. Just like we were b4 all this happened. I still don't trust her though.....at least not all the time. As 4 the other guy I heard he is doing good. I still could care less about him though. I have decided to get help with my anger issues. and have not lost my temper 4 a month.....about anything. I hope we will just put all this behind us. - 2 months ago
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
Something simple. I'm open-minded so we could do whatever. Dinner, a movie, both, go to a park, bowling, etc. I would dress comfortable, not necessarily formal because that usually isn't comfy. The date would end with me walking her to her door or car and saying thanks for the date, maybe a slight kiss on the cheek and go from there.
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
That I am a nice guy who is easy to be around and not afraid to show he cares.
(Age:25 to 29)
When: 3 months ago
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