I was with some of my friends and unfortunately the conversation's subject changed to my inability to get a girl . Some said that I was too shy while others said that I had extremely low confidence . So I ask you guys and girls what the difference between the two ?
Almost no difference... For whatever reason, you project to some people that you are not outgoing. I sympathize with you, but in order to get a girl, you'll need to step out of your comfort zone. For you, it will be more difficult than with most people.
On the plus side, once you're in a relationship, the tables will turn. Whatever good qualities you've kept hidden or suppressed will come out, and the girl might be blown away by your hidden complexity.
If you can open yourself up a bit more than you have already, it may be possible to tweak your image in such a way that you project a "mysterious" vibe instead of shyness or lack of self-esteem. Some girls are really interested in this type.
You're under 18 so you have 3-4 years of awkwardness (given your current status) if you go about things right .
Look, I was the biggest dipsh1t in high school but from those mistakes I grew from them and I can tell you that high school is the BEST place to make awkward mistakes . People who I observe now (21-24) who never tried to get out of their shell have a much tougher time, and only tougher when you get older .
My best advice to anyone in high school,to get over that shyness and "extremely low confidence," just start doing more things that involves interaction with people and activities . Looking back on it, I would've joined more clubs and sports then I did in high school as once you get older, those fun opportunities are much harder to make time for .
Low Confidence: Not feeling like you are worth dating .
Being Shy: You are worth dating, but you are just intimidated on making a move, or you want to make a move, but you are just awestruck and unsure of how to proceed (i . E . Mind is racing, heart a flutter, etc) .
A good tactic to use is to not let yourself over think the situation . Once you realize "Hey I like her" or "She's cute maybe I should . " just start walking toward her with a smile and let your brain catch up with you when you get there . Just say hi . It works .
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
I would take her to a nice but quiet restaurant so that I could have a chance to really talk to her. Then I would probably take her somewhere for a drink - a place that has music and maybe dancing.
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
I would hope to know a lot about her and for her to know that I am interested in her.
(Age:Under 18)
When: 3 months ago
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