How do I deal with seeing my ex?

I agree with superstrength79 - what's the deal with a best friend inviting your ex and his girl? That currently doesn't make sense to me.

Also, if it will bother you (and it would sure as hell bother me), I think bringing a date is potentially a TERRIBLE idea if you want to keep that relationship good. If your new guy sees you focusing on an ex, he may well get the hint and bail out. Think about that. You know guys get jealous and generally don't like to hear a lot about a girl's ex.

The eyes don't lie. If he catches on to what you're thinking or using him, forget about it.

If it wasn't your best friend's wedding . I'd say push the other woman into the cake . Then say something clever "I can see why you left me for her . She's sweet . "

Seriously though, why is he invited to the wedding in the first place ? Doesn't your best friend know how he's treated you ? I would drop him from the guest list in a heartbeat for pulling that stunt .

I'll join the choir here and say that he shouldn't be your focus at the wedding . Stick close to your friend and her other guests, dance with all of the cute guys, and if you have to leave for a while that's ok too . If you also happen to be standing in the crowd when the bouquet is thrown . No one will question your exes girl coming up from the dog pile with a black eye .

Good luck hun .

I agree with the girls . Go to the wedding, have fun . Bring a hot date, and I wouldn't even acknowledge his existence . You don't need to lose any sleep over it hun . He's gone from your life, don't let him continue to have an impact on it .

Your best friend is awesome,huh? Sounds like mine,lol. Really this is the big stage where the momentum of your situation can change. You either let him have it all,or you take something for yourself. First off,you can't ditch the wedding. I think you already know that one,girl! For one,he wins. Why does his appearance deserve for you not to suffer the joy of a wedding (sarcasm). SELFISH NOTE: I have one to go to in September and the dresses are HORRENDOUS. Anyways,the ball is in his court to be the one bowing out gracefully. So if anyone shouldn't come it's him or rather his girlfriend. How do you know he plans to even bring her? Or are you just over thinking that one?

Anyways so what,he cheated. SO WHAT?! Lets be honest,most guys do. The sucky part was you gave a lot of time to this idiot. During that time,you see positives and negatives with the guy. And it's all for a reason. Guys change you. You need lessons in your life,at whatever age. If you aren't learning,why are you here on earth? But seriously,the girl he cheated on is in big trouble. Because whenever a guy says he wants to maintain a healthy friendship with you after a breakup,it's bad news. Trust,I know all about the opposite sex. I've dated them all,out of boredom. He wants a healthy "friendship" because he wants you to be in his life. It's a way of saying,stay with me. Come to me. I want what we had,just I want to bang someone else. But why does he deserve all that from you,nope! He wasn't your best friend before for a reason,so don't fall for the trick.

So this is what you do,Lesae. You live. You go to that crappy wedding with a friend. A good friend. Why a guy,you might see someone more interesting at the wedding to talk to. PLUS,you both still have mutual friends I bet. It would be easy for him to eventually find out that -that guy you were with at the wedding was a nobody to you. So don't waste your time. You go with a good girlfriend,sister,daughter,niece and you have as much fun as you can at a crappy wedding. You become the sophisticated,fun woman that you were before him. When you see him do not try to avoid him,obviously everyone is mature enough to know this was coming. DUH! So you walk over to him,make a comment to them both with a grin about "Don't you just love weddings. " (sarcasm). Introduce them to your friend,friend to them. Maybe even check your cellphone,during the proceedings. Lol. Tell him it was nice seeing them there,best of luck. Excuse yourself with a hand around your friend and conversation to her.

Your next mission: Proceed to talk with your friend about how you just did that,and how you are so bad ass for doing it. Lol. Eat some cake for me. And dance at least one horrible dance. Maybe with a kid or an old man. Live that wedding up. And be happy that this wasn't your wedding to him. That you were given the gift of an out,and that someone better is waiting for you. A loser in a tuxedo,is there anything worse?

Girl go. And bring a hot date ! Hehe. Remember, you are fabulous, show him how fabulous you are!

Yes you should go ! Don't let him stop you go looking fab and show him what he is missing I know it will be hard and when you see him it will be hard and talk to him just say hi you will be the bigger person hope you have a nice time .

Have you ever seen the movie, The Wedding Date ? It has Jennifer Aniston and reminds me a lot of the situation you're in . I HIGHLY recommend watching this flick because you'll be able to relate to it . Now as for the wedding, since it's your best friend, I think you should go and share what is supposed to be the happiest day of their life with them . Your ex will probably be expecting you to lose your cool and will "get off" on knowing he still has that kind of control over you if you do . So I suggest that if you do go, dance and have fun with your best friend and mingle without paying him any attention . If he has the audacity to come up to you and talk to you, maintain a level head and act completely nonchalant . Compliment the girl on her dress even ! It will completely blow his mind and I promise you'll feel better for being able to control yourself around him and being the mature adult in this situation . If you do feel that it's too much, excuse yourself and go into the bathroom and let it out . (That's what bathrooms are for after all lol) Then regain your composure, touch up your makeup, and dance the stress away and have a blast ! Hang in there sweetie !

U go to that wedding ! N you stand on ur grund ! N you act like if that piece of shit never existed in your life . N you just ignore him and enjoy yourself ! No matter what you will go . N if you must then take some one with you . Don't back out of your friends wedding just cause that ass hole is gonna be there . Sorry for my language . But I just got mad when I read ur ? . Don't take the girl to make him jealous . Take the guy so you could feel more comfortable and less alone . That's if your not confident enough . But I don't think that your friend would want you to miss his or her wedding just cause of him . So just don't think bout yourself think bout the rest of the people . Member you don't want to show your ex that he got you down or that you can't stand him . You want him to think that your like whatever wit him being there and that it won't bother you at all to be in the same place at the same time . So you go and you have fun and you stay strong . N you don't have to talk to him . There's more people that you could talk to . Make conversation wit others and stay happy . So remember that your a strong women and that your confident . N nothing can pull you down . Not even a guy . You can be happy with or without a man . You don't need a man in your life to be happy . OK . Well I hope that I could help . N GOOD LUCK . Have fun .