My ex and I are trying to work things out in hopes of getting back together again (and I really hope it happens! ) but lately, he started telling me that I should call him more or ask him to come and see me or just to hang out or whatever.
He told me that he feels like he's the one who's doing "everything". Calling, planning, and coming to pick me up whenever we decide to see each other.
So now he said he's going to stop and it's up to me if I chose to take the initiative or not. Should I?
And um, the only reason why I don't (i think this is my habit even when we were going out I would always do it even after numerous amont of reminding) is because it makes me feel weak. I feel like I'm clingy or desperate. And isn't it true that guys aren't very fond of clingy girlfriends?! I want him to think I'm independent and not always available. Sometime I would purposely miss his phone calls just to see if he would call again. And if he does then I would answer it after the 4th ring or so.
Or I would miss it again and if he doesn't call me back then I would return his phone call but only wait for after the first ring and then hang up.
Is this a terrible thing? What am I proving to him? And how do you think he feels? I don't want to seem weak! And really, I hope it isn't my pride that's preventing me from calling him.
Do you think if I call more then things would actually pick itself up and our journey to getting back together would finally be at a steady pace? Because really I feel like we're on pause here -. -
Your relationship with anybody is going to be measured by what you put in to it. Since you are making no effort to make some of the moves, you can quess what type of relationship it is turning in to. You have to let your guard down sometimes. It is true that nobody wants a clingy girlfriend, but it is also true that people don't want a girl friend that you feel like you have to beg each time that you hang out. Open up and let somebody get close to you.
I'm going through the same exact situation. But after I tried giving more (because I wanted to prove that I do love him and care about him, he became distant, and a lot of his actions, made me feel so insecure. Although I don't like it when a guy who claims he loves you, pressures you to show him your love in return, If you really love him, try giving it a shot.
Don't call all the time. Answer his calls when he calls, and when you miss it, apologize and let him know you were just busy, but that you miss him. If you don't hear from him by the end of the day, call him to say good night, and that you love him. If you are anything like me, this kind of change (you making the initiative more than him) might hurt you. But I do hope it all works out for you two.
Well there is a difference in clingy and making an effort. I have found that if girls play too hard to get then the guy just gives up and moves on. He has to see that you have interest and you can do this without appearing desperate. I am in the same boat right now but I feel like I am the only one making the effort, but I love him so much that I am willing to do that. Just casually ask if he wants to get together one weekend but play it cool like it's no big deal either way. Just remember, if you appear too unavailable then you will find your self more available then you want. Just play it cool and you won't lose your upperhand but at the same time, you have to show him that you do still have interest in him, if he is truly what you want.
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What pickup lines do you use to start a conversation with someone you are attracted to?
I honestly don't have any pick-up lines really, I may flirt a little to see if the girl flirts back, and I'll then just ask if she wants to do something with me on the weekend.
How do they typically respond?
It depends, sometimes they'll flirt back then turn me down, usually though they flirt back and we end up dating
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