A male friend I've known for over 10 years and I recently had sex. Almost instantly we realized it wasn't the right thing for us to do. He's married and it wasn't something that was planned. Well we had sex around 4 times in a 2 month period. We had already talked about stopping this little secret love affair and had already stopped having sex. Yesterday he called me and asked to meet, but I couldn't so I asked him to talk to me about whatever it was over the phone. He went on about how he didn't expect to feel as deep about me and that he had started to feel love for me (differently from the love he had already had-FRIENDSHIP LOVE). He said that he was just not the sneaky type and didn't feel comfortable being like that and that he was feeling bad because he thinks I'm a wonderful person and he wishes there were a way that he could be with me, but we had to stop doing this sneaky thing and that we should go our separate ways and he was becoming addicted to sex with me and so on. Ok I understand him totally. His wife and I aren't friends, but It wasn't right and that's why we had stopped having sex in the first place. He kept bringing up the fact that he wanted us to be friends for life. I just want to know if I should just not communicate with him at all or just wait until he comes around or try to keep our friendship that we had before the sex. I'm stuck what's the BEST next step?
Sounds like you've got someone on your hands who got addicted to the thrill of having an affair. Will you be able to recover the friendship that you had? Depends on both of you. Definitely take a break from each other for a while and then see how you still feel about having a friendship.
I'm not much help because I am in a similar boat. Though we haven't had sex we have kissed and I am afraid it is going to turn into an affair. I think for you to remain friends you will have to take a break from each other and not contact one another for awhile and when you do get in contact again make sure not to talk about sexual things.
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
I would pick her up from her apartment/house or other dwelling then I'd we would go to a nice restaurant for dinner maybe candle lit and then maybe a movie, or some stargazing or just plain old goofing around
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
My sense of humor, who I am, what kinda person I am, whether or not she might go out again, what I think of her, the weather, my job and education.
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