How bad are the repercussions of keeping what's bothering you to yourself to prevent an argument with the one you love? No matter how bad it hurts, how loud you want to scream, and how hard you want to cry, you hold it in so that you can keep the one you love in your life.
Update: Thank you all for the excellent answers. It's something that we've been struggling with for almost a year. When I talk to him about it he gets mad at me, so yesterday I kept it to myself and felt like my heart was going to explode. It's still bothering me
3 months ago
Update: I think I'm going to get a journal. I write a lot of poetry to vent usually, but haven't been lately. If I keep telling him every time I'm hurt and upset about this particular issue I'm going to end up losing him because he thinks that I want to argue.
3 months ago
Update: And the last thing I want to do is argue, I love him. I just hate being disrespected and apparently he can't help it, or hasn't tried to help it.
3 months ago
Don't hold it in tell him that there are some things that you need to talk about and let him know that you still love him. If he's a good guy he will understand and let you vent.
Things that you may be holding up are always going to surface eventually. Consequences? Well, first of all you may end up by sending a wrong signal to him. He may feel some tension, but interpret it as something else.
And if it's something so important that bothers you, by hiding it, you will never resolve it, if it concerns him. So what exactly are you protecting? If the issues exist, they will not go away, you are just covering them up.
Share your thoughts. Expose them, if you want, talk to him, in the most natural possible way. If it's something that can be worked out, it will.
Well if you hold in strong emotions you are not only being unfair to yourself and your wishes, but, it can also lead to health issues such as ulcers and high blood pressure. If you need to, vent to a friend to get out all of the STRONG emotions ( or write in a journal), and once you have vented all of it out. You can then have a calm, civil talk with the one you love. Another problem with bottling it up is it will only stay bottled up for so long and then it will burst out, which could do more damage than good in your relationship.
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What pickup lines do you use to start a conversation with someone you are attracted to?
I usually try to use humor to break the ice (no not stupid jokes or creepy sexual innuendos) I'll usually ask her a question about a class (if she is in one of my classes) or about something else. I might also comment on her clothing or smile, or something.
Once after that I'll tell her my name, and get a conversation, I'll usually tease her a little to ease any tension
How do they typically respond?
Well, it's worked 2 times and I've used it 2 times.. so 100% so far!
In one case there was girl in my class and she worked at the bookstore. I asked her if she liked the class and she said she didn't know. So I teased her about not knowing her own opinion, (nothing mean, just light humor) after that we got talking and I ended up getting her number.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 3 months ago
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