I found condoms in a hidden desk drawer, is my man cheating?

Sounds like he´s cheating to me, you said you have a sex drawer with condoms alreay in it, well if you both share this drawer you probably know how many condoms are in it correct ? So what he is thinking is well if I take one out then she will know and I am screwed, she will get suspicious. But he has this secret drawer that has all kinds of other stuff in it, so if I was going to cheat on my girlfriend I wouldn't use the condoms in the sex drawer I would go out and buy my own and hide them in my secret drawer because she doesn't know about the drawer.

So now you found his drawer and he denied it at first and then you hung up on him, right after that he was like oh shit better come up with an excuse and so he used that one, which in my opion is one of the worst excuses in the world. I would have said something like oh I went to the bar with my friend while you were gone and well he brought that box of condoms and when we went out he left it in my car, and when we got back to the car, he took one out because he went home with a girl and he didn't want to bring the whole box with him so I told him don't worry about it I will take them home and whenever we hang out again I will give them back.

I do not use a condom to masturbate, nor have I ever heard of anyone else using one. I would not jump to any thing yet though. He might be using it to cover for something. Like he went out with his friends, and one of them needed it. I carry one when I go out, just in case.

I was actually in the same predicament once, and I actually made the effort to the store to by condoms to masturbate with. I hid them from my girl because we don't use condoms and it would have been silly for me to keep them in our "sex draw" besides I wanted her really knowing I was masturbating.

I would find more evidence before you claim he was cheating. And remember" A Jealous person is troublesome to others, but torture to them selves. that small bug that plagues your heart will soon turn in to an uncontrollable 3 headed monster over time.

I say your in a tough pickle until you can get some more evidence. It takes more than 1 clue to solve a murder. Install a hidden camera in your bedroom and go away for the weekend. Cameras don't lie, if he's cheating you'll have it on tape

I hate to say but I do believe he is cheating on you. Everybody has there own opinion. If you have a special drawer for that stuff and he has condoms in another. Coffee is on. Wake up

First of all, I don't think that you are absolutely sure there was girl in your house, else you would have some solid reason to kick him to the curb. His story is not totally unbelievable as an embarrassing situation does make people lie to protect themselves. A missing condom from your sex drawer would have been noticed so he had his own stash. It is a bit questionable, but you got your answer.

I also think that if you were gone for a week and if he was cheating, then there would be more that one condom missing. OR, maybe that was a new pack:)

Perhaps you need to cut him some slack on this one and just keep the radar up for awhile. If he is cheating, it will be found out if you're on your toes.

I am a guy and every time I masturbate I use a condemn. It feels better, it keeps the lubrication where it needs to be (not on the sheets), and it makes clean up very simple. I have been in a relationship with a girl for ever three years and haven't even told her that I masturbate. I keep a stash of my condemns a secret from my girlfriend for this exact purpose. There is a good chance that he isn't cheating on you as well. I found out about this tip from a web-page when I was back in middle school; boy where they right.

Okay I'd hate to admit it but I've used condoms to masturbate. Why? Because the cleanup is easy (stays inside the condom) and it feels way better when a tight condom is covering your penis. But umm. Why would he get extras? Maybe because he didn't want you to think that the missing one's from the bedroom were used for other sex. I don't know. I will tell you though that it's normal to use condoms to masturbate. But in my opinion, he wouldn't be buying extra condoms and hiding them if he had nothing to hide. He would have just used the one's in the drawer and said, "chill out, I masturbated" and not gave a damn what you think because he knows he's loyal. That's just what I would do.

I'm sorry to say this, but it does sound like he's cheating. No guy I know uses a condom to masturbate. What's the point in that? Doesn't even make sense! The reason you can't find any more evidence is that now he's on to you. He knows you're watching him, so he's covering his tracks! I would break up with him and move on. I don't think he's being truthful with you.

Dump him, He's lying. What guy masturbates into a condom? That's just ridiculous.
I'm sorry you have to go through this, you deserve a lot better. Just remember there are lots of good faithful guys out there, so don't give up on love.

From your updated comments, it sounds like you have decided to wait, and give this guy another chance. I hope this guy justifies your faith in him. But I would be very suspicious, because: (1) he lied to you when you first confronted him; (2) it is now beyond dispute that he bought a new pack of condoms, used one, and hid the rest in a secret drawer. Points (1) and (2) give you ample reason to distrust this guy. And his "masturbation" explanation is just a bit too convenient. At the very least, you will now need to watch this guy closely. But, really, who wants or needs a relationship like that? Without trust, what's really left?

To me, personally, I think it sounds like you already made your mind up with that "he lied" remark. Then again, considering you have other condoms in the other "sex drawer", you raised a valid point.

Men are weird things though. Maybe he thought if he took one from the regular drawer, the next time you checked you'd find the missing condom dilemma and think he was cheating. Maybe that's why he bought a new pack and hid them in a secret drawer you're not supposed to know about which also has pictures of engagement rings in.

. And again. Personally. I would never have watched the drawer, but possibly a good thing you did.

I don't think you should freak out this much. There was only ONE condom missing, not 5 or 6. He may have used it to masturbate, who knows? Don't go basing your decision off one condom. You said he's a neat-freak, just wait it out like you said.