Why is she so secretive?

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Ok so she sort of lies at times about guys in the past. I don't know if she is just embarrassed or is hiding something? And she also said she has trouble being open with someone. So I really don't get it. We are in college and have been dating for about 8 months. And I also notice that on facebook and her phone she deletes messages quite often. But its not always just guys. But I have noticed when I saw her phone one time that the conversation has pieces missing? I'm really confused?

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budphillips Follow
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I'm a dude, so I don't know if you really care about what I have to say, but man, if you are having trust issues, that's a huge red flag. Regardless of if she is hiding anything or not, you're having issues trusting her. They could be grounded in reality or could be completely uncalled for.

Either way, you'll have to learn to trust her or you'll have to move on to another girl. Trust is one of [if not THE] most important aspect of a relationship.

I'd also recommend not checking her facebook and phone messages. Those are her messages, they are private, and you have no business going through them. Either learn to trust her or find someone you can trust. A relationship with no trust is an awful time. Trust me on that.

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- Timeus
  
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  And with this man, I shall concur. If there is one thing that will end a relationship quick, fast, and in a hurry it's not having trust in your significant other. If your relationship is a house, then trust is the ground that the house is built on and if you don't have the ground to build, you don't have a house. Simple as that. And don't dig up her past, if she's not doing anything suspicious, don't make it a point to dig up old skeletons. You might not like what you get.
  
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blufrenzy93 Follow
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I'm very similar to this girl. I don't really open up to people and I delete parts of my text convos. For me, it's not that I'm hiding anything, it's just that I find it hard to open up to people. As for the texts, I delete parts of them because a) they take up space in my in/outbox b) some parts aren't that important to me c) I've already read them so I just delete 'em. Although, don't go through her phone. That's invading her private matters. If you find it hard to trust her, then talk to her about it. If even after 8 months of going out with the person she likes, she finds it hard to 'open up', then I would think about your relationship.

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