How can I tell the difference between playing games and being TOO shy?

Well first off if he's playing games I doubt he's shy, but if you want to test it hang out with him see how reacts if he's not flirty or anything could be he shy and doesn't realize he's playing games with you, but if he's flirty and acts he's your best friend he's playing games, but keep this in mind guys will talk to you and then at the same time be talking to another girl and another girl, why you say well one reason is not to get hooked on one girl in case she doesn't like you, the other is he's going to pick the best one and if the ones he has aren't the one he wants he will keep on talking to other girls. I have at the moment 3 girls that I'm talking to none of them are official so I'm not cheating on any of them, and the bad thing is I don't want any of them, so what do I do I continue to meet new ones until I find the right one I want.

Best way is to take that out is go to public place like a mall, a movie anyplace where there are people around. If he doesn't act his normal self around you. Then he is definately shy and if he continues the games the dude is a player ;-)

Playing games is a art of seduction check that cd collection out. you don't like it when he play game because you aren't sure on the message he is trying to pass so it drives you wild, and he know that. and if he is going through that trouble to do that he likes you. don't show him that he gets to you and find ways to get to him so you get the other hand and he will fall for you. cool?