Ex. ; A girl likes you, she doesn't actually say it. But she gives you some signs. Is it really that possible that you will not pick up on them?
Some of the signals I give off and my friends to let a guy know we like him. We; *laugh at his jokes (but only if it's truly funny) *Twirl our hair between the fingers or play with it in some other way, like tossing it back, putting it behind the ears. *touch our lips from time to time (more so if we really want to kiss you) *stroke a part of our body. Naturally imagining that it's your hand touching us (and hoping you'll get the picture) *look deeply into your eyes and when you look up at us we keep the gaze and give you a smile *seem to always be in a good mood when you're around *joke a lot (well. This one depends on the person I guess) *feel comfortable around you (or the opposite. Quite nervous) *touch you more than other people *try to make you jealous by flirting with another guy in front of you *sit next to you or directly across from where you're sitting
Pretty easy when most of them mimic every day actions a girl does. Although I guess saying I like you is just too hard. Some get it some don't. Some didn't get the pamphlet. Or I guess where absent that day in class. It is very likely. Been there before.
To be honest I would only (and this is a maybe) pick up on about 2 of the ones you listed. So yes, most the time we miss them all because they're so darn indirect.
Women drop hints and show interest through body language and subtext. Guys are usually pretty obtuse when it comes to that stuff. If you're interested in a guy the only surefire method of getting his attention is to come right out and say so.
All of the signals I will notice and understand except flirting with another guy and trying to make me jealous. If I see a girl who is interested in me then she flirts with another guy, then I will walk away and ignore her and pretty much forget about her.
I don't find girls who flirt with multiple guys attractive. The impression I get is that she is either an attention whore or she just wants some dick. If it is a girl's intention to make me jealous then I will think she is immature and that also makes me want to ignore her.
I also agree with soxfan94. If I see you flirting with another guy I would still not be interested, because I could think that's naturally how you act with every guy (such as being an attention whore or she just wanting some dick).
Yup! We kinda want to see if you'll get jealous...if not than we see no point in continuing to like you...so we just move on. It may sound silly...but, that's just how a lot of girls operate. And I got this kind of a comment before (somewhere below), so I get you don't get our behavior...but if it helps...we don't get you either...(especially the shy ones!!!) - 23 days ago
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"to see if you'll get jealous" And if we do, you'll yell at us for being needy and insecure ;-) - 21 days ago
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No.! Ad least I wouldn't! I would then know you have feelings for me that are more than friendship and I would make a move. ;) Or let you make a move. Haha - 20 days ago
How could you call us clueless, when you know you aren't communicating directly? :)
I agree with the statements below, if I saw you flirting with someone else I wouldn't think you liked me at all. Even more so if you were friendly around me before, I would think you only thought of me as a friend.
I guess missed signals are a lot better than mixed signals. I get those more often. And they can be horrible!
So what kind of signals would you want a girl to give to you? So you would be sure not to miss them...?
Yup...I agree...you're not clueless...it just seemed like a simple headline for the topic... xD - 24 days ago
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Talking to me is the best thing. I really hate the "positioning effect" where a woman will walk within inches of me, and wait for me to discover her. Drives me nuts that I'm cute enough to be interested in, but not good enough to be talked to.
A good signal that I may actually take initiative on. A full blown smile. Genuine interest expressed with a smile. It's a little contradictory since I don't like the previously mentioned signal, but that's romance for ya! LOL - 24 days ago
Because some girls are just flirty and that's what I see it as just them being flirty especially when they flirt with other guys yes it mite make him jealous but it shows me that your just a flirt and not just interested in me
Guys just operate on a completely different wavelength than girls. Just as youre saying we miss your signs, you probably miss ours as well. My personal feeling is that if you like someone, be up front about it. It may be awkward at first, but if nothing else the person will have respect for you for having the balls to say how you really feel. not only that, it also removes all doubt. Many people, through fear of rejection or whatever it may be, will not make a move unless they are 100% confident in the fact that you like them. Even the slightest bit of doubt will turn them away from taking the next step. Flirting and games can be fun, however, but they get tiring very quickly as I'm sure you know.
Guys think differently. To be honest, most girls miss a lot of "guy signals" as well. So I guess are are just not very atoned to understanding each other? I've gotten similar signals such as the ones you mention above from girls, and it literally took weeks of signaling to get my attention.
I think that guys are kind of very simple and think systematically, while girls tend to think in a more complicated way and we have to make everything so complicated (and, trust me, we don't like it either!)...so we can't seem to relate to the way you think since we are used to this web we create for ourselves that just makes it all even more difficult than it really has to be! I KNOW! xD - 27 days ago
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You make a very good point there. Guys tend to take a more logical approach to things, while girls are slightly more emotional (generalizing here). I feel that open communication is probably the best way to go. Language is a wonderful thing, and you can usually twist words around to signal that you like someone. Or you can just be honest and say it. Most people enjoy being noticed. (and that's guys and girls) - 27 days ago
The second to last one is probably the reason why guys get thrown off track. We're just starting to think "hey, she must be into me, since she really seems to be flirting with me". And then you start flirting with a different guy, and we realize that it must not have meant anything, since you do it with everyone.
Those than have to be some serious flirts by nature. And that's just not that common. Or they're underage (that should be explained as to why they act that way since that's the way teenagers with some extra hormones act too! ). :) - 27 days ago
Well, I don't know much about that, but do you really think that we girls pick up on all of guys clues? I don't know about anyone else but my significant other claims he sent me hundreds of signals all the time, and I didn't pick up on very many of them until he flat out said "I like you. "
And the ones I did pick up on, they're ones that can be easily confused.
People are NOT mind readers. If you want someone to know something, you need to use your words.
Ok. But personally I'm good at reading guys. So I was just wondering why is it difficult for them. But now I see that some girls have difficulties with this as well. - 26 days ago
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A lot of the "hints" you mentioned too, I noticed I do without thinking and it rarely means "I like you", so I can really understand how guys would get confused. - 26 days ago
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