Scared of sex.....what do I do?

First of all, if you are still hurt from your situation years ago talk to someone about it, I know that's a hard thing to deal with.

And if the guy you are with doesn't make you feel 110% comfortable by telling you he loves your body and thinks you are beautiful and encourages you day after day, then don't do anything with him your body is not worth giving away!

It seems by saying you are scared of him asking he hasn't really made you feel comfortable with yourself. Give it time, don't rush into things, and if things get hot and you don't feel comfortable TELL HIM flat out how you feel. If he sticks around then it means you are worth it to him.

Well almost only counts in hand grenades and horseshoes. if your not ready, then say so. either he can be a good guy and give you the time you need or he can be an asshole and go somewhere else. your in control of your sex life. so don't do anything your not comfortable doing. take your time and communicate your concerns with your partner. as far as your body goes. those parts of your body are yours. and if you think they are ugly, then no one can help you. why not have a little more faith in yourself. who is the judge of ugly???? I didn't think you could answer that honestly either. so lighten up on yourself a little.

I'm assuming that by having sex you mean intercourse. With that said, never do anything your don't feel comfortable with. There are all sorts of things that you can do that will help relieve some of your urges like masturbation, oral sex, handjobs, etc. , but only do those if you are ready too.

There are sexual healers you can work with in the tantra realm that can also help reduce some of that trauma. You might explore that as someone who is trained to help heal sexual traumas.

Finally, go and get the book called "Petals" from Nick Karras. You will see some of the most beautiful vulvas and they are all different. Some have large outer labia, some are small, but the thing to notice is that they are all different and beautiful. Enjoy yours as one of the most precious gifts in the world and that drives men and some women to do almost anything to be near.

You need counseling. The fact that you were nearly raped is a rough thing to deal with. Add in your insecurity and low self esteem simply makes the flames burn hotter. The piercing was a bad idea, I feel women should have no more piercings than their ears as rings and such ruins the natural beauty of a woman. This emotional stress you are having must be dealt with soon because it also strains the relationship with you boyfriend as it will do so to any other lovers in the future. I don't know what your boobs look like without a pic of you(this is not necessary. Really) but I bet you look fine. A good counselor will help you far better than most of us here ever could. I do praise you for bringing this up, talking is good.

Never Ever Rush, don't matter who long you been in the relationship. You only give it if you feel comfortable and confident enough to go through with it. If he truly cares about you, he will respect and wait for you. I have been rapped twice. And when I had my first bf, took me over two years before I decided I am ready to sleep with him. If he doesn't respect your wishes, he won't ever respect you, you don't need a boyfriend like that. Be confident, Be strong, but most importantly be yourself and don't do something you are not ready for.