Is my own sexuality something I just need to get over?

If you want to do this and you trust him, then it's ok. If you wait until marriage, then you will still be equally awkward and nervous as you are now. I just finished going round and round in another post about this whole virginity and morals stuff. Embrace yoru sexuality with the person you feel comfortable with, be it a friend or your future lifemate. Your desires are quite natural regardless of what the religious fanatical will tell you. This is called primal urge, all creatures have the urge to "breed". The difference is that humans can either enhance primal urge due to how hot a person is, etc. Or override primal urge because "God Is Watching".

9 months with him and no sex yet? He is a very patient young man. He's a keeper. But do not put this off much longer.

Sometimes it is hard to shake good training. There is nothing wrong with you feeling like you need to wait till marriage. If he loves you, I believe he should understand that. I know it sucks sometimes, but sometimes you just have to wait until you are ready. Nothing says that you have limited sexuality. What you do probably have is a large amount of fear. I'm guessing you were probably raised very religious, and that teaching is still firmly grounded in you in spite of the sexual tension that you are feeling. I strongly believe that a person should act on what they feel is right, even if it doesn't always feel that right at the time. Whether or not you wait till marriage or not is not for me to say, but I can say that I don't believe you should do anything until you are sure you are ready for it.

If you feel like it do it if you want it you will have it that all I can say I was the same before SCARED of putting my boxer off now I'm just put them away and jump on my girl it just need some trust and all gonna be super nice

Personally I think you're both better off with other people. He needs someone that can fulfill his sexual needs and you need someone that's comfortable taking things slow. I suspect this is something you'll grow out of over time once you finally get comfortable with your sexuality. In the short term the two of you don't seem compatible and it will cause problems, as your question is already showing. In the long run you're going to be better off because you need someone that can coax you out of your shell at a comfortable pace. When that happens you'll be thankful for it and it sounds like your current guy isn't the one for the job.

Well my female instincts say to hell with him and don't give up your morals. But I'm not real example here lol. Try to talk to him and explain that it's nothing about him but it's what you believe in. Even without sex a relationship is hard, try to get a little more comfortable with at least fooling around though at least your satisfying something with him so he doesn't start getting fidgety as most males do (not all but most) when they aren't getting any. It's hard but worthwhile.