Respect her?

Almost every women I have had sex with, I wanted to keep her. I am no gigolo and not exactly Gods-Blessing-to-Women. So when a woman does choose me and not tall, handsome young guy, this should mean something. I have never had sex with a drunken lady so this would never be considered a mistake. Sex is not wrong, lustful nor a sin. Sex is a good thing and always have been.

From my point of view: If a woman wants me as her permanent lover, sex is a way to skip the troublesome stuff. Believe me, I will be there for her. But if all she wants is a one-night-stand, she better say so BEFORE the fun begins. I am mature enough to talk about it and understand her decision.

Once again, consented sex is not a mistake. After all, women don't just screw anybody.

Sometimes things really are as simple as they look. If your heart tells you that he's just using you for sex, then you're probably right. And remember, most guys are not going to pass on a chance to have sex (even with someone who's just a friend).

Complicated question and you'll get a lot of different answers, but what I would say is what is the situation, both drunk, or both sober, cause if your both drunk more than likely he would say no not girlfriend material just an easy girl, but if you were both sober and into each other and things just got heated up and he wanted it and you wanted it then yes. I would say if there's definite attraction between the two then its very possible she's girlfriend material. Normally if I take a drunk girl home and I'm also drunk, the next morning I usually have sex one more time and then we never talk again. But if she was sober and I was to then yes I would prob want a relationship with her.

You could very well still wanna date her and be w/her even if you went all the way on the first date. Very much so.. You could even love her.. It's highly possible..

Why are you so concerned that we know this is only a question?

Regardless, my counsel is that you should take your power as a women and do what you feel is right. If you have sex with him because you would like to have sex then great. If he then leaves because he doesn't respect you enough then why would you want to be with him.

Also, have a conversation with him prior to having sex and discuss what it would mean if you were to have sex. Does it mean that you now have to have a monogamous relationship or that you have to get married? Or does it mean that you have a mutual respect for each other and you can have sex with others? Either way if you get it out in the open then there is less room for having false hopes and if he lies about what he does then he will be the person out of integrity and have to live with his decision. My guess is that would not leave him feeling very good.

Its not too early unless its like the first night or first week.

There is two sides to every coin, you would have slept with her as well. Would you still want her to respect you after sleeping together? There is your answer. I do not believe there is a set standard for a guy and one for a girl. We chose to either sleep with someone or not. I am old fashion and as such would not respect a guy that tried to sleep with me before marriage but that is my own standard and I hold the guy in my life to equal standard. Yet I do not look down on people that have there own standard, but I believe you need to have a standard and stick to it in a relationship, and hold the ones we love to the same standard but always make your standards clear and if they press you to go against that standard is the only way that I would lose respect for them. I believe also in letting the past be the past though and letting them chose to either meet your standard or not, but never press them to do this, if this standard is high on your list and they do not meet that expectation then a relationship will not work between you. You should then cut your loses and move on.