My girlfriend is away studying to be a medic and spends all her time in the books. During this time both of her grandfathers passed away and was unable to see either of there funerals. Every day we made sure to talk, but the most of the time she would bring up the fact that she was highly depressed, missed me and just wanted to stop her schooling and be done with the whole thing. She just started what most people call the hardest part of her classes. As soon as this started she had no time to do anything but keep her nose in the books 24/7. Shorty after this took place she told me that she wanted to take a break until she was done with her class. She reassured me that she loves me and still wanted to be with me. I made sure to let her know that I would be there for her when ever she needed it and I would give her the space that she asked for. To tell the truth i am very confused with the situation at hand and really don't know what to do
Update: Well shortly after the break she changed her status on my space to single and deleted some of her pictures of us together. These past few days have been hell on me and I truly don't want to lose her.
2 months ago
Update: And at the end of the conversation she said I loved you first with all her friends in the back ground. To be honest I've been sick to my stomach knowing that this has come up
2 months ago
Give her the space it's not a "break up" its just a break so basically you're still together but not really talking and if you really miss her send a postcard to her, a cute one having just a little note in it saying that you love her or you can't wait till her classes are over or just simply ask how things are going don't write like a page write only 2 sentences let her have all the time she wants but don't let her forget that you still love her too.
I think long distance relationships are difficult. Your girlfriend may be putting your relationship with you on hold because it is too painful for her to not be able to be with you. It is easier to "take a break" than to deal with the painful emotions of her heart being torn apart by not being able to see each other. Maybe you could get her to discuss her emotions a bit more in order to find a solution to her pain.
She may be hurting inside and is not sure whether it's easier to break up or try to keep the long distance relationship alive. Personally, I would talk to her and find out if this is the case. If she's just hurting because the two of you can't be together, it's easy to just let her know that you will be there for her. Let her know that you are not going to break up with her. She may need this reassurance. If you don't let her know, she may think that you don't really care. - 27 days ago
Right now, everything is piling up on her, whether it be school, family member's deaths, and you. In this situation, when she's asking for space, give it to her! She has little time for herself and the emotional things she's enduring.
You're a great guy for being there by her side, but let her come to you. When she's ready I'm sure she will. Let everything settle down for her. If you keep pushing her and trying to make things come to their senses, you're only going to make her want to break away from you.
What us women want when we ask for some space is for guys to respect that. You may or may not take my advice, it's up to you.
But just to sum it all up: Don't make her have to decide one or the other. When things have settled I'm sure things will be back to normal. Just give it some time and don't pressure her. Just be a friend for now.
It could be she is simply bogged down with school work and the lesser-thing that happen in life. Perhaps she really appreciates you and your relationship, but doesn't feel she can handle all things at once.
I don't know the whole story here. How long have you been dating? What was your relationship life? Do you take the time to listen to all of her grievances?
It's possible this is just an easy way to end things, but I wouldn't assume that if I were you. Wait until school settles down and summer vacation beings. Then see where things go.
I know the "waiting game" can be tough, but sometimes it's wise to just wait. If you're meant to be, you will keep in good contact and things will work out. I wish you the best!
She's trying to say that she wants you to back off for a bit. Basically like a short term break up and get together after classes are over. She probably feels like she doesn't have time for a relationship at the moment
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