We have been together for 5 years and he has a history of abuse. I have left him before but I always end up coming back. I caught him cheating on me and he still lied about calling this girl when we got back together. I told him this time I was done and that I never want to see him again. But I love him and don't want to lose him. I realize this is a bad relationship for me but its like I am drawn to it. He has his head so far up my a** right now I'm surprised he can breathe. He says this time he is really going to try to make it work, He even said he wants to get married! Arrhhg! I just don't know what to do, Please help.
What did you want in a relationship before you met this guy? Ask yourself that question. If you answer was, I want to be beaten, lied to, and cheated on- then this is the guy you wanted. If your answer didn't include any of the things listed above, you need to cut your losses and move on with your life. There are many guys out there who will give you the love and attention you deserve, without all of the crap. Just because the guy you are with now has the rare moments where you think things are great, doesn't mean you have to put up with the rest of it.
He won't change, so you need to. Get out of the situation and find some drama-free happiness.
You are absolutely right. Now the next move is to get the strength to leave for good. Because when I tell him to leave he doesn't because he knows that I will just take him back! - 6 months ago
Well getting married to this dude right now wouldn't be the smartest move. I've never cheated on a girl I've been with, but know guys who have. And it seems the old saying is true "once a cheater, always a cheater. " this guy clearly doesn't deserve to be with you, and you know it.
And yes 5 years is a long time, its like he knows you'll come back no matter what. Get a backbone, and help yourself. Leave him. There is someone better out there for you.
This is a real hard situation I understand how you feel I been cheated on and have stayed and I know I should have walked out after his one night stand but I didn't. Then we went on a break and he had a fling we are trying to work things out. Some guys are jerk I am not sure if he will ever change. As for you guy I know you love him and you dated him for a long time don't think about married try and work on things if you really want just understand he may cheat again believe me I know its heartbreaking I been there I am there still too that day cause I just can't leave my guy I can understand if you can't. 5 years is a long time
I'm sure you're a relatively smart person. Go back and re-read your question.
1. He has a history of abuse 2. You realize this is a bad relationship 3. You caught him cheating 4. But he still lied
people like that don't change - and apparently you're having trouble changing as well. And by that I mean you can't seem to break this guy's hold over you, or you're pattern of going back to him. It might be HARD, but there shouldn't be any question in your mind: LEAVE HIM FOR GOOD
Thank you. What great advise. I know that I need to leave him. I just need to cut all ties but its a little hard considering the fact that we have kids together. - 6 months ago
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When: 6 months ago
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