I find myself really ugly down there. I really don't look normal,. My inner labia stick out about 0. 6 inches. so I got a boyfriend and I am sure we wants to lick me soon and I don't know how to tell him how I feel about myself and how to tell him that I don't want it.
I am thankful for any advice
What do you guys think about when the inner labia stick out?
If you have a vagina, I guarantee that he'll love it. It won't matter what it looks like, so long as it's there. Personally, I like the lips sticking out a bit, but honestly, if they don't, I'll still be in heaven seeing her. I'll love her regardless of whether they stick out or not. Do you honestly think that he'll reject you because of it? Do you think he bases his feelings for you on what you look like down there (taking into account that he is, as yet, to see you)? Does he live you because you have a vagina that he hasn't seen yet, or does he love you because you're you?
Seriously, don't worry. He'll love you. If he loves you now, what your vagina looks like won't matter half as much as that it's part of the most beautiful girl in the world to him. He will see your pleasure that it brings you as he goes down on you, and he'll love it!
Most of the ones I've seen stick out. No big deal. And more importantly, I've almost never heard a guy complain about female fun parts. And the ones that did were assholes anyway.
Go get the book Petals by Nick Karras. It is a book of nothing but womens vulvas and they are all absolutely beautiful. My advice is that if you have one guys will think it is beautiful too. If they don't then they are likely gay and don't care. If they aren't gay then they probably have some sort of sexual trauma and you probably don't want to be with him anyway.
If he really care about you, then it will make no difference to him. He will care more about pleasuring you. Eventually he will see the goods. Besides, some may think it is sexy. Let him give it a try, you may both have a wonderful time. And if you completely refuse to let him have the joy of pleasuring you, then be honest with why. I know if my woman had the same thing going on down there, I wouldn't think it's ugly, I would just want her juices running down my chin. Hope this helps :-)
My advice is not to worry about it. How you are is how you are. Let him decide how much he likes it, not you. What you might find not attractive about yourself, he might find very attractive or not care that much really, especially when it comes to that. Your boyfriend will probably be more interested and concerned in how your respond to his fingers or tongue or having sex.
You have to tell him better for him to hear it from you with a little explanation than for him to find out himself during a heated moment and if he's worth it then he will love all of you and a real guy will make you love yourself also I used to hate my body but then my boyfriend would always rub my curves and say how much he loves them and that I look amazing and so should your man no labia is the same nor should they be its what makes you you so be content with yourself and let him love you or leave either way its better off for you
All vaginas are different. No 2 are alike, similar to snow flakes or finger prints. I used to feel the same way about my vagina because the upper part is very fat and sticks out in tight clothes so I have like. A bulge. And the outer lips are full also.
You should watch a lot of porn. That's what I did. I saw much more gross vaginas than my own and it made me feel so much better. You should be confident. If he is even worth your time, he won't care if you look different. Chances are, he has seen a lot worse.
Be open and honest with him. Just tell him you are self conscious about it and nervous.
Everything will work out, I promise. If it bothers you A LOT or it causes pain or irritation against your clothing, there is surgery to reduce the size of the labia. If it truly bothers you that much, you could always check into that.
What makes me feel better is thinking about really gross vaginas that are really hairy and smell bad and taste bad and such :) hahaha I know it's silly but it helps.
Just remember that EVERYBODY is self conscious about SOME part of their body.
Good luck :) The first step to having guys like it, is loving yourself and liking how you are :)
I totally agree she is sooo right and I hope you take her advice I couldn't have said it better myself - 5 days ago
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Oh gosh, question asker. Then look up genital piercings. There are some pretty gross ones up haha. Plus, you might think yours is the worst, and somebody would probably say yours is the best. I hate things about myself that others LOVE and even get off on. Like my super muscular legs. You are wayyyyy too hard on yourself! - 5 days ago
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I got a piercing down there. But I find it kinda pretty. Lol - 5 days ago
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Hahaha oh I know, I was pondering getting one also, but I just mean it seems that all the pictures online are terrible. And if you had no problem having a stranger down there, you should be FINE with your boyfriend! - 5 days ago
Ok, this is a very odd question...But you know the actual part called the vagina where everything happen, babies, sex period etc. Ok, so skin that...
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