I met this guy at work approx 2 years ago. For the first 6 months we did a lot of flirting, then we started going out on occasions. He told me he loved me, but through the internet, never in person. The sex is good and we chat online till the wee hours of the morning. I'm crazy about this guy and I opened up my feelings to him, but I never told him I loved him, even though I do. Should I take that next step? He's a private person and its hard for him to express his feelings in person. What should I do?
If you love him, tell him. Love conquers all. Don't let stupid feelings such as, "I'm waiting for him to say it first;" "I don't want to feel and look awkward;" or "I'm shy" get between you and love. Be honest to him and yourself. He might be a private person, but love is nothing to hide.
If he just wants to play games and is not looking for true love or commitment, then you'll know once you tell him and you'll know if he is worth your time in the future.
Your last comment is so true. unfortunately I don't know if I'll get the chance now. we had a disagreement. he wants to remain friends but wants to keep the door open. is there any hope? - A month ago
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If the disagreement is over something little or changeable, then he won't let something like that separate you two if he loved you. If he wanted to be with you, then he wouldn't run away from you. The fact that he wants to "remain friends but keep the door open" is suspicious. Are those his words? I'm suspicious that he just wants to keep you as something to fall back on in case he separates from a future girl. "Remain friends but keep the door open," probably has a hidden meaning to it. - A month ago
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His exact words were that he's not saying good bye and he's not closing the door. He wants to be friends for now. I guess the sex part will come later if we go down the road again? Am I just a fool in love whose not going to get the love and respect I deserve in return? - A month ago
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You are probably right about the last question. I don't think he is in love with you, because I can tell from those words he does not want to remain exclusive. The hidden message behind his words is "I'm looking for sex with other girls but if you want more sex I'm up for it. " I find non-exclusivity disrespectful. I've seen guys who won't commit to just one girl: even to an insanely gorgeous one. And I can't understand that logic. But I can recognize such men who won't commit. - A month ago
yes that is why he only says it online he is probably very attracted to you and is even shy*er* wen your up in his face. make him feel more comfortable by telling him you really like him , and that you think he has great conversation by telling him you like what he has to say in some sort of way. will make him more confident and more open to telling you how he really feels in person. also if that doesn't work talk to him only online about how this makes you feel because then he can tell you why and then you'll be able to figure out ways to work him into being more open with you. hope i helped =]
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