How do you know you are over someone, can you ever?

When your over someone:

You don't constantly think about that person when you have nothing to do.
You don't constantly think about that person when you see something that person will like(flowers for girls etc)
You don't rush to pick up your phone and hoping it was that person.
You don't constantly go to places that person been to.
You can flirt/date with someone else and it feel comfortable.
You don't get shy around that person(If your a shy person)
You don't constantly ask question about her life(like every time you see her you ask same question)
You care about other people just as much as that person(You don't "over-care" that person)
You don't have butterflies when talking to her =P
And many more feelings that you usually get from that person and no one else, will disappear.

I've learned that there a couple of different indicators of whether or not you are "over" someone.

1. You can date someone else, and not constantly think about your ex. (most important)
2. You don't constantly think about your ex, in fact, they only crop into your head every once in a while, when you need food, money, or a pity date. When you daydream, it isn't about them.
3. If you spend time with your ex, you don't feel any sexual attraction toward them. They should be more like a sibling than a suitor.
4. If you are in a social situation, and your ex is present, you don't actively search for them. And don't have to tell your self not to.
5. You don't feel you need their approval.
6. You don't feel like you are cheating when you flirt.
7. You can have indiscriminate sex with someone, and never think about how your ex did it. (unless it was really good or terrible, then it's ok)
8. You just know it, you don't have to question yourself.

I hope this helps, getting over someone takes a longer amount of time for every person. Some people take weeks, some people a few hours, and others, years. It all depends on the people involved and their relationship.

When you first break up you miss the person and only remember the good things about them, or recall all your happy times. As time goes on, you begin to think what an ass you were with, and see him for all his faults. I believe this is still part of the grieving process. You are truly over someone when you no longer focus on the good times or the bad, and you become indifferent towards them. It doesn't mean that thoughts of them don't cross you mind about them every now and again, it's just that your overall attitude toward them is objective and no longer personal. There were good and bads, but who cares anymore, they are no longer of importance to you.

When you honestly don't care where he is at, doing, thinking, or who they are with ; but its hard to do that because at one point YOU did like/love this person