Alright so I've been dumped after going with this girl for about 3 1/2 years. I've been working on a few personal flaws while we were going out but she says she doesn't feel that I should have to change for her. We discussed about a few things but she never went into how she really felt about some of the situations. From what I gather the breaking point was when I was stressing out about getting into a college (got into junior college around when we met and applied to a private university just recently) I blew up at her after she said she was tired of hearing about it.
After the breakup I sent her an email thanking her for everything she did for me in our relationship and I hope I had a positive influence on her. She then sent back an email listing out what she felt was wrong in our relationship and why we couldn't go back. I then sent her an email saying I understand. I also added a warning for her (nothing malicious). She has an STD and I knew about it before we got together (thought she was worth it). We always used protection but I eventually got it. I found out about it around the time we got into our argument (don't know if it contributed to me blowing up at her). I kept it from her but figured that if she was to go with another guy she shouldn't think that because she didn't think I got it, some other guy wouldn't either. I didn't do this to make her feel guilty (I'm serious).
So she texted me the next day asking why I didn't tell her and said it made a big difference. She said I still hurt her but she didn't know. I don't want her to get back with me because she feels sorry for me. She said she couldn't talk to me anymore about this and that she felt like shit. She said she needs space and time to think about stuff. I've been giving her space but just wanted to know what other people think.
I think you need to give her time to sort out her feelings. Think of the saying: If you love something in let it go and it doesn't come back, it was probably never yours 2 begin with, but if it comes back, then it was meant to me.
I really sorry about having to contract an STD that sucks.
Thanks. I really appreciate it. I like that saying it does make allot of sense and is true. If she truly valued me and our relationship then it will work out. I just got tired of playing the game of who did more fore the relationship. We'll see. - A month ago
Like she said she need time and space, her life is a bit messy at the moment, studying(I think? ) broke up with you, found out she gave someone STD(self blame), argument with you(before broke up) all this emotional thing just crush down on her at the same time. Maybe after few days or a week, if she still haven't contact you then you try contact her and tell her your worried about her etc.
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