I've heard this a couple of times. Women are known to be able to put up with a lot of things when it comes to relationships. A friend of mine was in a relationship for 4 years and after so many hardships, she literally woke up one morning and said to herself "I'm done, I don't want to be with him anymore".
Is this possible? And it also scares me that one day I'll be that girl. I've been in a relationship for 5 years now and yes, I do go through days when I hate him with all my guts but I always want to be with him - giving me a day or so to get over it or if he gives me a heartfelt apology.
We have broken up twice, and thinking about those two circumstances, it was because we kept fighting and fighting and it didn't take much to end things between us and it was always me to keep trying to fix "us". Yet, those two break-ups he broke up with me. No matter what situation it was.
He loved the fact that I was always willing to try to fix things (guess it showed him how strongly I wanted to be with him no matter what).
I'm scared that there will come a day where I wake up and say "i'm done" and I really don't want that to happen.
This currently is my situation that I'm going through. My ex said that she just couldn't handle it anymore and left. I would say the #1 key thing is communication and acceptance of the other person. For us she was at school 70mi away. It was hard to communicate to the extent that we needed. The problem is that although guys have hard time saying what there feelings are I found that women try to hide it. This is when it gets to the point that they can't bear it any longer. I myself was almost at the breaking point because she wouldn't talk to me about things that were bothering her. Try to sit down and discuss things. You need to be direct to him about those problems. Also admitting that you have faults too helps but don't let him dwell on it.
For me I need a girl to sit me down (face to face) and say what is bothering her and to really let me know that it is affecting the relationship. Changes can be slow and arguments can still arise. By the way how old are you. If you're at the most 24 then you would have been w/him at least since you were 19? If he really wants the relationship to work then he should be working toward making himself more compatible towards you as you should also. If he doesn't want to work at it then there is little hope. If you are putting %100 and he is putting in %50 then he is failing. Try true communication even couples therapy (not just for marriage). If you have already invested 5 years of your life to him you should already know by now if you want to spend the rest of your life with him. If you think that he will really try just tell him what is on your mind. Guys want to be there for their girls (just don't whine or anything). Try doing this and see if anything gets better.
Staying in a relationship is a decision. It doesn't sound romantic or idealistic like people want you to believe romance is, but love is work. So if you're worried that you'll wake up one morning and suddenly realize you don't want to be in that relationship, I think that only happens when you have crap in your relationship that just keeps piling up and piling up until one day something is the "straw that breaks the camels back. " From what you've said it sounds like you're committed to working through things if it's the right person. I wouldn't worry too much - even if it DOES happen, it will be for a reason.
Yes, Women can put up with a lot of things that happen in a relationship...but when it come to a point where a woman won't put up with it anymore we walk and some act like nothing ever happen...
It could happen to anyone. Relationships are never totally certain. I think it might be even more likely to happen to you, since you've already broken up twice. A lot of my friends are getting married now, and I can only think of one couple that actually had a breakup in their past.
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
I would love to take my date to a dance where we would dance all night and at the right moment I would take my first kiss and the date would end with a romantic kiss under the moon and stars with a couple of romantic verses or poems and the promise of a second date
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
They would know my music tastes my dancing side my poetic attitudes and my personality which is very important
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