Why do we get stood up on a date?

Question

Folks, this has happened to me on numerous occasions. Sitting at the restaurant, standing at the park, looking like a complete idiot by myself all decked out waiting for my date. No call, no show, nothing. I go back to the women(if I can find her) and I get excuses. End up stomping away, mad at why she just didn't say no in the first place.

Why do we do this? Am I the only one who wanted to commit mass murder on the opposite gender after what, the fifteenth time? Why not say no? Most of us men are used to rejection. Standing up your date is so uncool.

Men are bad for this also, so don't get the feeling this is a rant against women.

daydreamercarla · Accepted Answer

Ok, I'm going to just spill out the truth without beating around the bush: we feel bad.

Women are very sympathetic, so when a guy asks us out depending on how we are approached we will say yes. But never show up so you could get the hint without really having to face you. (see how it works)

It is extremely low for women to do this.

I say just get to know the woman first, like hang out in groups or just be friends. Most women do this especially when we don't know the guy. So, your best bet would be to slowly work your frienship instead of bluntly asking a girl out.

Good luck with the whole dating thing!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

To add on to what daydreamercarla said, some guys are very pushy. They won't give up until they get a yes, no matter how many times the girl tries to get out of it. We feel bad saying "I can't go because I don't want to" Eventually we run out of excused and are cornered into saying yes.  I think that to avoid getting pressured into another date, some girls just don't show up.

gravygirl · Accepted Answer

I've never stood anyone up and never been stood up. I kinda thought cell phones killed this. I agree that it's terrible, but I really didn't think it was common. Are these dates set up via the internet?

oldwiseone · Accepted Answer

I never been stood up. In this day and age of cell phones. How hard is it to call and say I am sick, something came up etc. There are legit excuses for not showing up for a date. But there is no reason for a stand up.

tex151 · Accepted Answer

To be honest I haven't been stood up before, and it seems like you have alot, I don't know man need more info to tell what it was your doing wrong, how do you go about asking them on a date?

EmilytheNukeE · Answer

The only time I've been stood up, it wasn't a date, it was waiting for a friend for lunch. It was the most miserable thing ever. I can't imagine doing that to someone unless I got run over or something. It's just cruel.

Why do we get stood up on a date?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Why do we get stood up on a date?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.