Get Back Together?

Sounds like him breaking up with you was a blessing in disguise. Go with your gut. If you think that there is a better match out there then don't pass that up. Marriage lasts for a lifetime. You don't want to put yourself through a lifetime of unhappiness because you are temporarily attached to someone because it feels comfortable etc. You may want to talk with your family if you are close to them and think they have good advice. Maybe they don't think you guys are a good match either? Good luck.

I realize you may have already made your choice seeing how this was written a while ago but just in case you should do with what your heart tells you. If you really have no common ground with someone it always comes up later and causes problems.... also you should do what makes you happy and if you convinced yourself that quick that you need to move on you are probably right I hope everything worked out!

I believe that when you love someone, you'll change to make them happy. He obviously can't change the college fact now but he could always quit smoking and drinking, if you tell him how much this concerns you, if he loves you, he'll choose you over the bottle.
I was the complete opposite of my boyfriend, we were the best of friends and he pretty much hated everything I did. When we finally got together though, he asked me if I would stop partying, drinking and smoking and I stopped every single thing. In the past 1 and a half years I've had 2 drinks, 15 cigarettes and gone to about 3 parties. Compared to drinking and partying every weekend and smoking 15 cigerettes a day, this is execllent and he is very proud. You know what though, I didn't just stop these things because he asked me to, it's because I no longer need those things to have fun because I have him and he makes me feel complete.
Ask your boyfriend to break his unhealthy habbits for you, it may take some time but the fact that he is willing to at least try and give up these things will show his love for you. If he doesn't even consider your worries, then you'll know that he is not the one for you because the one for you will do way more then just try to give up smoking to make you happy.

By your profile, it looks like you are still pretty young. I think you should ALWAYS trust your gut. I mean, why would he do this awful thing to you in the first place? If you go back, can you guarantee that he won't put you through it again?

My last partner & I did that routine FOUR times (yes, how stupid am I) before I finally had enough. Learn the lesson quicker than me and save yourself a whole mess of heartache.

There are heaps of men to meet in the future - for now, enjoy being young, single and committment free!