We have been knowing each other for 8 months and we know that we like each other, he told me he likes me. We have been hanging out for like 10-12 times in his house. I feel like there are things that don't let us be a couple, from his point of view. I don't think if there's anything that would put the wall, but he doesn't open up. It doesn't matter for me that we're 2 different nationalities, he's hispanic and I'm caucasian girl. We recently got physical together and maybe in the beginning I was playing hard to get, because I was protecting myself not to get hurt, but he kept calling and we started as friends with benefits. We share similar interests, he asks about my family, for some reason he wants to get to know it, and he speaks of his family. He had been known as bad ass guy and I have image of serious and thoughtful girl lol. I have never been in relationship before, in fact he was also the first guy I ever kissed. He's little older than me, in his mid 20's. I never spoke to him of my feelings but showed little of affection. I want a relationship, but I don't know how to tell him, because we're both shy of emotions. Should I be the first one to talk of my feelings? I don't want to seem desperate. Help me
It sounds like a complicated relationship, but all complications can be lessened by an open dialog between both parties. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you being the first to bring this issue up to him. If you want to let him know you have strong feelings beyond that of friends with benefits, you go girl! (lol). Like John Mayer said in one of his songs, "It is better to have said too much than have said nothing at all. "
Be open, honest, and wish for the best. Trust yourself. Good luck!
What I need is to know about his feelings first, otherwise I'd be afraid to be played or walked over. It's just the security I need first in order to open my feelings. - A month ago
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The problem with that is there is no magical way to know how he's feeling without asking. There might be clues as to what he's feeling, but you can't ever be sure. The nature of relationships is taking risks, if we knew what the other person is thinking all the time it wouldn't be a relationship. If he's hung out with you so much and you've had sex (or been physical) I can't imagine he wouldn't wholeheartedly listen and possibly reciprocate your feelings. - A month ago
Speaking first isn't being desperate -especially if you bring up the subject gradually with no pressure. Desperate is if the guy clearly has no interest and you still can't let go. On the other hand, getting physical together should entitle you to know something of his thoughts and plans.
It was me who decided to get physical with him and of course what a guy wouldn't want that? It's just I can't waste my time anymore, either he opens up first or I move on, because I'm not used to open my feelings first. I have lied to him and I know he has told me there's nothing worse in life than lying. Maybe he lost trust in me? But I don't lie, just the situation got so that I had to... - A month ago
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