Am I in an emotional affair?

What is it with bosses and co workers? I am in the same boat as you are, only thing I am her boss. I am crazy over my office clerk. We do a whole lot more together than me and my wife. She is the same way with her husband, happy some days and on most days, she feels as if it is repetitive. I know she loves to have her back scratched lightly and she loves when I rub her neck. I am afraid to take it to another level, when I leave the office, I t hink of her all day long myself.I don;t fantisize about her, but there is just something that makes me feel secure when she is around. I feel complete, I know, but I am married. My wife works continuously when she doesn't have to, and her husband works nights 7 days a week. Well, I guess it's almost normal to feel this way, cause we go to lunch a lot together, we starting to go to trade/business classes together, and I always tell her how much I enjoy her company, cause I do. That is something I am missing in my relationship. That something I would like to gain, my wife won;t even do concerts with me, so I asked her if she would go with me and she said yes. I am excited, you have no idea. I finally have someone, even if she is just a friend, that wants to spend time with me, and wants to be around me all the time, maybe that is how he feels about you. I can tell you now, sex is a sacred position, even for some men, I know it is for me,and if we ever had sex,it would have to be a moment shared by the two of us, it just makes it that much more special. She is well worth everyh breath that is lost when I talk to her. You just need to take it slow with him, and if that "emotional affair" makes you complete and happy, then fulfill your future. Lust and love have no boundaries, just make sure when "sex" happens, the both of you want it, and make sure you let him know it is ok to be with you, and wait until a really nice night the 2 of you have together. I know it'll be a night I would never forget!! And if you 2 fall in love, and you 2 are complete with eachother, then the 2 of you move on, if I felt this way after we had sex and she did too, and she told me she wanted to be with me, I am hers, COMPLETELY. Follow your heart, you'll never go wrong!!

Maybe, but to me the idea of an emotional affair is comparable to thought crime, I don't think it really matters. What matters is what you do, not what you think or feel.

Now, what you talk about is sort of like an action, are you making leading comments or something? It's kind of mean to both this guy and your Boyfriend if you're leading conversations in a direction that can't be consummated.

You did not specify if either of you are in an existing relationship, so I cannot comment on whether it is an "affair" or not. I can comment on the actual courtship ritual that appears to be happening, though.

Due to the boss/employee relationship you currently have with this person, he is taking the safest possible approach and waiting for you to make the first move. This texting is about as forward as he is willing to go, until you make it clear to him that further advances are welcomed. Continued flirting in this manner will force him to decide whether to risk ramping it up to the next level (hoping you will get the hint and make the leap into a proposal for. Sex? I don't know what the expectation here is, I assume sex) or it will cause him to retract his actions. He will be frustrated that his advances were not acted on by you (Blue Balls) and may possibly take this out on you, either by discontinuing communication outside work or even causing work-place problems and conflicts.

It's a slippery slope, you just need to be aware of which way you're sliding.