In a serious relationship (for the guys) what would you want from your girl sexually? (Blowjob, hand job, or just sex)... Because I really don't like it when my girlfriend either tries to hand job me, or blow me, because that just seems like something someone would do on a one-night-stand.
And ladies... do you think in a serious relationship there should only be intercourse, or do you feel it best to do hand jobs, or blowjobs?
I think it depends on the two people. That said, before I'd been in a serious relationship I thought I would only want intercourse as well. It somehow seemed cleaner and more romantic. But eventually I realized that oral sex is also very intimate and a lot of fun as well.
Try to realize that prostitutes not only blow men but sleep with them too, and both of these sex acts can occur in one night stands as well. I think what is key is the way in which they are done and the context. Your girlfriend is doing these things because she loves you not because you are paying her to, so try to concentrate on the sensations and think about it as a gift. There's something really beautiful about her doing something totally selfless because she thinks you will enjoy it. I don't think there is anything wrong with that as part of a sexual relationship. However, if you really feel uncomfortable with it, or think she does, you could always discuss it with her (this will be touchy though. You are basically refusing a gift. Also you really DONT want to say "what you are doing makes me think of a prostitute" because that is going to make her feel awful and she was trying to do something nice for you! )
In a healthy sexual relationship it's typically best to switch it up between everything that each of you are comfortable with.
With that said...
Not to be a mood killer here, but since you are both under 18 I would be very careful about engaging in sexual activities. With how rape laws are now, all it would take is for her parents to find out for them to slam you with some serious charges (whether she consented to the sex or not).
I don't believe that's fair at all, but unfortunately that is the world that we live in. What's worse, is a charge like that will never leave your record.
Whatever you choose to do though, make sure that you use protection.
Everything and anything she is comfortable with... for the most part. In one post you said you don't want sex and now you don't want a bj or hand job? What exactly do you want? But that's ok its definitely about the connection, not sex... in a good bf/gf relationship anyway.
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