I usually answer questions but I've got one of my own for the women out there. For those of you who have been in serious relationships (more than 6 months-ish) - What were the reasons you broke up with an ex boyfriend or husband?
Well the reason that my last girl and I did not work out was because she was not fully engaged in the relationship. She was not willing to give me the needed attention that one deserves when in a long term relationship.
Well he was very possessive and a little selfish (as far as me going out versus him) at times. But other then that he was a very good boyfriend. He was loving, caring, faithful, loyal, supportive, protective, romantic, I could go on forever. I just got sick of how controlling he was. It seemed like I had to have a reason for every place I went or anything I did.
Honestly, I think it got old. This sounds so horrible for a woman to say but it is the truth. I also had a lot of pressure from my single friends and all that mixed together was just not a good combo. So I guess I just really wasn't committed.
I think because I was bored I was creating situations that caused us to argue and I think he just got sick of it in the end.
We kind of lost the trust in each other there was too much emotional hurting.
We were on different paths. I plan to have a very big and full life and I was always lifting him up to my level. He was there for a while and we had the most amazing time but then resorted to the person that he was in the beginning.
I could not accept him for who he truly was and finally he got sick of this. Totally understandable ...
Hes now dating my brother's ex girlfriend ... they are prolly a better match for each other anyways hahah
Things were not the same.. He changed.. He wanted to go out and party and I wanted to settle down and start are lifes and he said he was read to but never aced like he was.. So I had to get out before thing got to bad..
My boyfriend and I were dating for over a year we lived together, had same bank accounts we did everything. Christmas eve he proposed new years eve he dumped me! He said he wasn't ready for a real relationship when all along he said he was? What happened?
*Communication Issues *People Change - Grew up in different directions *Sex - He wasn't as intimate as he used to be and I was scared that he found someone else. *Trust Issues
My new guy gives me all I need and more. My ex-husband (a 7 year relationship) now has a g/f and it's working out for him. We still communicate and are friends.
He was always there for me when I was upset or needed someone... except when I was upset about him. Its like he didn't want me to ever be upset about him so his solution was to ignore the problem and pretend it would go away on its own. He would actually say things like "just get over it" or tell me that i'm being stupid. So I felt like he didn't care at all about how I felt and I would get even more upset, thus he would ignore me and supress even more, and so it continued become more and more of a vicious cycle.
Eventually when I realized what was happening I made an effort to not get upset about most things and try to work it out calmly with him...but no matter how much he agreed with me he could not manage to even make an effort to step out of his box and try to work out our issues so they continued to grow into such huge problems that eventually one night when I took off crying because I was so upset and called him telling him I was going home he told me basically "that he had enough of my shit", and I realized that I can't be with someone, no matter how much we love each other, if they don't want to be with me. and that was the problem... he didn't see how working on our issues fixed our problems and made us closer because all he could focus on was the conflict. Thus he was unhappy and thought that we just didn't get along and could not be happy together despite everyones assurance that couples just fight sometimes...
My ex was emotionally abusive. It started getting abusive about a year into our year and 4 month relationship. He was jealous. He would do things jut to make me upset. He would manipulate me into oral sex by not talking to me for the rest of the night if I didn't comply. He called me the C word and did a bunch of other things I'm sure you all can imagine.
I recently spoke to him after about 5 months of zero contact and he claims to be a changed man. Ha!
My ex never listened to me, truly listened. He'd hear me enough to keep a conversation going but never really cared. If I was sad, he didn't give me a hug and tell me things would be okay. He was always like, "well, it could be worse". If I was angry, he would always see the other person's point and just argue that I was over-reacting or whatever. When all I really wanted was support and a shoulder to lean on, he'd just criticize my feelings.
1. Did not have the same hopes and dreams for the future 2. Did not give me enough attention or affection, I didn't feel loved and appreciated 3. Jealousy and/or too controlling
Things that never happened to me but I would break up with my boyfriend over:
Too controlling on her part or his, unfaithful from him or her, insecurities from both, abuse, started to lose themselves in the relationship not loving their own self therefore leaving no room to love another, falling for or wanting someone else, and or just simply fell out of love. That happens sometimes people grow apart rather then grow together creating not only separate lives but different personalities that have grown and changed so its as if you were with a stranger...
There could be many reasons why woman break after long periods of time just because your in a relationship a long time doesn't guarantee it sometimes it takes that long to realize who a person really is or what you really need rather then wanted.
My husband (of 11 years) just left me. He said he had no reason other than that he was unhappy. I was miserable for about 2 months but now I realize that I was not happy either. I am the type of person that works very hard at relationships. I probably never would have left him even though I have not been happy for a couple of years. He completely sucked the life out of me. I am happier now than I have been in years.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 5 months ago
