I have been seriously flirting almost daily now via email with a guy I had dated for a couple of months. He broke up with me because he said he needed to slow down and said he was not ready to get into something serious at that time, as he just got out of a relationship.
I said fine and accepted that. I did not hear from him for about a month. Slowly started emailing... We then had coffee once and have talked a couple of times on the phone since. Lately the flirting is almost daily as I said, and it is very sexual now. I have not been with anyone since him and he said he is not with anyone now..
He told me when we broke up that he need to be alone and not with anyone to get grounded again. I am pretty sure he is not with anyone at the moment. He also has sent me several really sweet emails about being friends and that is happy I make him smile and that he holds me close to his heart and that he has a diamond all along while he may have been looking for stones and things like that.
I think he has feelings for me. It is just a matter of time that we connect physically again, it is pretty evident. He lives about 3 hrs from me. I would like someone's thoughts on whether this sounds promising for a second time around. When we met it was instant chemistry and we talked everyday sometimes for hours. The physical attraction was definitely there also. What should I think?
Everything sounded good until you said he lives 3 hours away... ouch. Sometimes guys really do just need some alone tine to ''de fragment'' our brains. If you don't mind the drive, it sounds positive to me.
We both have family where live and frequent each other's cities often. The drive is no big deal to me and I don't think to him either. He told me Monday he was thinking of me while he was watching sleepless in Seattle. I think that is a good sign, no? - 6 months ago
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Thanks. It is about 120 miles. We both do the drive a lot so it is not big deal. Thanks for your thoughts. I think it sounds positive too. My gut tells me the same. - 6 months ago
Maybe you should wait a little bit longer and find out first what he wants out of this so your heart does not get broken. Even hold out sexually! cause like you said he values you as a friend and you do not want to loose that I imagine... and although he is talking sexually it could be because he is looking for some type of attention either cause he is lonely in that manner or he is just trying to see how far you will let him go.
Also you said he is not with anyone right now so just keep that in mind. So talk to him first see if he wants a relationship or rather if he is ready for a relationship at all so that you both know upfront what to expect. If it is just sex or just friends with benefits then at least you will then be able to decide if you want that as well or if you are ok with that and can do it with out getting to emotionally involved. If he does want more then ease into it do not jump into anything just yet and although long distance relationships can be difficult it also depends heavily on how strongly you feel about one another.
So if he does want to be with you that can all be sorted out. Be open minded and ready to handle what he has to say and be sure to let him know either way you as well value your friendship with him and that you would like to continue at least as that for as long as possible. Good Luck!
Thank u. I definitely don't want to lose his friendship & I told him I don't sleep w my friends because that always causes issues! I will keep you posted - 6 months ago
You should definitely try, but if he "dumps" you again, then move on. He's playing with your emotions, too. And you say he lives 3 hours away from you? If you do not see him regularly, then this long distance relationship might not work. This guy is tricky and confusing, so just follow your heart.
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