Even shy guys will make a move and approach women if they really want to?

its called sexual harassment.
in an age where men can get sued, or fired for just saying "hello" to a bitchy gal. some guys won't go near a woman unless its Proven she won't be 2-faced.
I used to have a job years ago where all us guys shared one rule, DON'T say hello to the women who work in the sales dept!
one guy got fired just for sitting at the same table in the lunch room.
2 months AFTER he got fired, we all found out he was GAY! the girl had NOTHING to complain about!
end of story.they never hired him back, but the boss gave him a good ref. and the girl lost so much trust from all co-workers, she ended up resigning, because no one would help her out!
"teamwork" was big in that place, so you can imagine how bad she looked!

Shyness stems from a fear of rejection, and rejection begets more rejection. Basically, if a guy has a low opinion of himself, it will hurt that much more to try and fail. The guys who are out there pursuing girls all of the time don't mind rejection because they know that they're playing the odds--eventually, a girl will accept them. Guys who don't usually pursue girls tend to wait for the ideal moment to approach them--a moment that may never happen.

You don't need to ask the guy out. Even for shy guys, that can be emasculating. However, some more obvious flirting may be in order. If you make it clear that you like him, he'll be much more likely to make the first move. Just remember that guys aren't psychic; if they don't know that you like them, then they have less reason to make a move.

Sometimes when the guy is really interested in a girl it can be hard for him to get up the courage to ask her out because he fears she'll turn him down. Sometimes also shy guys are shy because they have lower self esteem and figure the girl will never go out with him so he won't ask. Yeah it's a self fulfilling prophecy since by not asking he makes it so he won't get the chance to go out with her if she did say yes. However, that fear of reject is so strong he doesn't want to risk getting reject in order to ask her out.

Your statement is true because it really happened -- a very shy guy did that to a very shy girl. But this leads to another question, if the guy and the girl are both shy and they both like each other very much, but they're too shy to tell each other, how do you make it work? I think that I'm in that situation!

Weirdly enough, I found myself in the same situation with a co-worker that I had a crush on. Finally, in a round about way, I asked him how he felt and he told me "worst case scenario, we'll always be good friends. " that was a total blow because I felt a real connection with him, but I want a real man and I'm sure you do too! You deserve someone who thinks you are special enough to court. If he's too insecure and too shy to pursue you, you have to ask yourself, what else will he be too shy and insecure to do. Take my advice and find a man, not a boy.

I think that if someone really likes you he or she will go out of way to show it, it doesn't really matter whether your shy or not. If you need an excuse then maybe your not feeling it.

In the dating game, no matter what type of chick that you are, you need to allow a guy to chase you. No matter how far we have come in terms of the modern women, a guy will simply not be in the long term attracted to you if you pursue him. Plus it's really not that fun chasing a guy anyways!

The most that you can do in this situation is to encourage him and let him know that if he so happened to ask you out that you would accept. Basically flirt like crazy around him, but leave it at that. Don't start trying to call him, randomly bump into him or anything, because that just way too obvious.

With that said, if he still doesn't notice, then you just might have to face the fact that he just isn't that into you and move onto the next guy that will give you the attention that you deserve

All the best =)

Hot Alpha Female

I was raised fairly old fashioned as well. I definitely think there are certain ways girls and guys should conduct themselves. I enjoy being a lady and like when guys are gentlemen, however I think it's okay for a girl to pursue a guy. I'm just of the mindset- if I want something I have to try to get it. And if I decided I wanted to date a guy who was shy I wouldn't feel weird about saying "hey I like you, let's go out and get to know each other better".

I don't like the "hunt" to be confused with chivalry :)

I really didn't answer your question... I just rambled a side thought, haha.

My guy is soo shy..so at the beginning of the relationship I'm the one who asked him out and I'm the one who gave him my number and I'm the one who told him I liked him first..I knew he liked me and that he was shy to talk with me..but look at us know were doing great and I broke the shyness from him and from a few days he told me that he loves me..you see it's all about guys getting shy..so you have to make the move..that's not new.

I have found that not to be true at all! I have liked this shy guy for months now (and I know that he likes me because his brother said he does, plus you can really tell). Anyway, for four months he didn't make a move so I finally gave him my number. He called twice from a blocked number and didn't say anything. From the advice given here I know that it's going to take me initiating asking him out. Some guys are just really, really shy and no matter how much they like you, they just can't work up the nerve to say something. I think that since its 2008 and women are declaring that anything a man can do, we can do better, then why isn't asking a guy out included? I believe in going for what you want! LOL.

Not always I'm a shy girl and I liked this guy who was very shy we kissed once but he never tried to ask me out or anything after it because he was too shy so I thought ok I'm shy as well so for once ill be the 1 to step up and make the 1st move I got his number texted him seen if he wanted to meet up and he did and everything went really well so guys won't always pursue the girl times have changed and girls should not wait around for the guy to do something you want to.