Have you ever got back together with someone who cheated on you?

My husband of almost 9 years almost cheated on me. I say almost because he swears he never slept with the girl but I know he wanted to. He was with her all the time. They texted each other constantly and at all hours of the day and night. We split up for a few months but he came back to me crying about how stupid he was and how sorry he was and how he would make it up to me blah blah blah. That was two years ago. We just got divorce on the 15 of January. I didn't realize it until a few weeks ago but I never forgave him for what he did. He betrayed my trust and I could never fully trust him again. It destroyed me emotionally. I felt like there was something wrong with me when in fact I was just miserable in my marriage. I was depressed for a really long time (over a year). I am still dealing with all of this stuff but I am finally starting to feel more like the person I was before all of this happened.

Long story short. You have to be truly able to forgive someone for cheating. I wasn't able too. I felt completely violated and he swore he never actually cheated.

I totally agree with sky pixie! Once a cheater always a cheater. Although I chose D... I agree with C also. I could never give my time on a man who won't waste time on me and I say waste because that's what cheaters do!

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Sorry

Just like you, in high school a girl kissed my guy and "he couldn't do anything about it", right... but he confessed to me and we didn't even break up. At the time he didn't have a car so he came over to my house (after I hung up on him a million times every time he called back) taking like 3 buses in the middle of the night, yet I didn't hear the doorbell (really I didn't!) so he wrote me a message and went back to his house called again and told me about it, when I went outside and found the message it was the sweetest thing ever so I forgave him and everything worked out fine.

I never could, and hopefully won't feel desperate enough to. Trust is a big thing in a relationship for me.

Yeah, and it was a stupid decision I'll never do it again.

I voted for "C". Cheating and infidelity is a real deal-breaker with me. Especially after marriage!

I suppose it's a situational thing. If some dude just started grinding her on the dance floor, and she didn't want anything to do with it, then that's fine. But if she was enjoying it, and she was making out with the guy, then that's different.

Now, if some dude just grabbed my wife's butt , then that's a not cheating. Like I said before, It depends on the intent and type of act that was going on.

My buddy kissed me on her wedding day, and she never kissed me before then, but everyone understood it to be platonic, and there was never any desire from her or me. That's not her "cheating on her husband."

For the most part, though, if a woman cheated, and I knew it, then I'd most likely be gone from the "relationship." I come from the idea that once the person cheats, it's over. "Once a cheater, always a cheater."

As a man who's supposed to be confident in himself, and not take lies, excuses, blame or too much bull from anyone, what would that say about me? I doubt I could ever do stay with someone who cheated.

The trust, I would imagine, would be gone.