This guy I've been friends with for awhile (and a little more) said that the reason he never wanted to have a relationship with me was because I am a virgin. He's dated other girls since he's known me but they were all non-virgins. I'm not waiting for marriage and I would have slept with him if we had been in a relationship, no question. He says I'm beautiful and great so why is my being a virgin such a big deal to him?
If you guys have talked at any length about you being a virgin till you're married, and he showed decreased interest after that, it means he wanted to have sex, and knew that you wouldn't be giving it to him
By the way, this doesn't make him an asshole, like many here are saying. If sex is one of the reasons why he wants a relationship, that's his choice, just like your decision not to. If he had enough respect to not force you into something you didn't want to do, I say give that guy a klondike bar.
As I said in my post, I'm not waiting for marriage and would have slept with him if we were in a relationship. He was still freaked about about the virgin thing. - 5 days ago
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Oops! I glossed over that part! My bad! Brainfart.
Maybe he thought this was the case? Otherwise, I don't have a good answer for you. - 4 days ago
He might have guilty feelings about being with a virgin, because maybe he feels like most of the sex he has is for fun only. And if that's the case, maybe he doesn't want to cheapen it for you because he knows you haven't done it yet. He wouldn't be the first guy to be in that situation and react like that.
Wow, when I read your question, I was like WHAT?!? I'm a virgin myself and to be honest I'm waiting for marriage and still trying to find "the one"... I would rather prefer the virgins because that is like a symbol of trust to me, that there's a good possibility it will be long term, instead of just lust. Like everybody says here, he is just looking for one thing, which is sex. Leave this guy!! Unless all you want is sex yourself. But if you're looking for a long term relationship, this isn't the guy for you and you deserve a lot better!!
You are at least over 18 and still a virgin, girls like you are very rare! And there are a lot of guys including myself that are trying to find girls like yourself!!! Good luck.
Yeah everyone is dead on.. kinda. don't sleep with this guy. but saying that he only wants sex I think is wrong. he most likely could have by now right?? but not because he's ass, you need to find a guy that you really care about and that he cares about you to . and most likely if your friends this will kill the friendship.
Maybe he has a huge "member" and doesn't want to break you. Or, through his experience virgins aren't good in bed. But if you need someone to break you in, I know people who are willing to help.. J/K
The guy is a piece of shit and just wants to have sex. If that is what you want then so be it. But remember, your virginity is the greatest gift you can give a man. Give it to someone who appreciates it.
That has GOT to be the weirdest hang-up I've ever heard.
I guess he feels like he would be corrupting you. Which is very silly because you're a grown girl and who you sleep with is YOUR decision.
Anyways, sleeping with this guy sounds like a health risk. You don't want to contract HIV your first time (just joking!) Sex is way too important to him. So forget about him and move on! And do it whenever you're ready :)
That is exactly what he's thinking. He thinks he's being noble by not "taking my virginity" but I actually find it more disrespectful that he doesn't think I'm capable of making that decision for myself. - 5 months ago
I have to agree with BlondeBaby. He is obviously only after one thing. When a guy cares about you he doesn't automatically write you off because you're a virgin. That's really messed up on his part. You don't want to be with someone like him. Think about it, of all the great character traits that I'm sure you possess, he looked past all those and chose not to date you because of one thing. It had nothing to do with if you had an attitude problem or if he felt you were a horrible person to be around. He chose to go with that you were a virgin. You deserve better! Best of luck! :)
Wow, I have no idea but he doesn't respect you. Never date him.. he only wants one thing and one thing only!
By telling him you would have slept with him was not a good idea because he may actually want you now.. Which is bad because the fact that he wouldn't date you over a choice that isn't a big deal is horrible. leave him. Tell him how much that hurt you and how much you liked him.
What did he say when you told him you would have gave him your virginity?? Bet he was pissed... ( comment the answer ;) }
I've never come out and said it but I'm sure he can tell. We've gotten pretty hot and heavy and sometimes he's been the one to stop things. - 5 months ago
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It isn't at all obvious.. trust me.
Whenever you get hot and heavy guys want to go farther and farther. Maybe he is scared of ruining the friendship, but trust me.. if he cared about you he really wouldn't care if you had your virginity or not. good luck! - 5 months ago
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