I think my 15 year old daughter is pregnant?

I am glad all turned out well, but I would sit down and have a conversation with her about why she felt the need to have sex to start with. I don't think it's about wanting to as much as it's about REPLACING something in her life and using sex to fill a void.
At 14, fantasizing about sex is normal, but I don't think that doing it is. Girls that age are extremely terrified to have sex the first time so there was something that happened that pushed her over the age. You need to find out what that "something" was.

If she plays sports or is under a lot of stress, that can cause periods to be really whacky.

I didn't read everyone else's answer's on this but my advice is to just be there for your daughter. Make sure she is well informed of ALL her options and then support her on the decision she makes. You can't predict someones future behavior based on someones else's past behavior.

I had my daughter at 18 and can honestly say it has been the hardest thing in the world for me. I love her to death but it took me long time to understand that I can't go out with my friends every weekend. I can only imagine what my life as a mother at 15 would of been like!

I did see where you said that adoption is not an option because she would be criticized at school...have you considered homeschool? Just for 9 months? Do you think if she keep the baby it would make all the teasing worth it? Would she see it that way? At least consider an open adoption, then you could all be apart of the child life and your daughter could still live her's as a teenager.

And these "wild child" teens out there are only that way because their parents allow them to be that way. If your niece was on and selling drugs her mother could of stopped it by not letting her out of the house. If you ever suspect your child is even around drugs, or even having sex..lock them in their room! They may hate you for it now but they'll get over it.

It will be OK. Take a deep breath. If the test come back positive, you have many options. I don't believe in abortion. God gives us gifts for a reason. But, she is 15. You would be responsible for the baby. There is adoption. You have some time to think about what is best for your daughter and the baby. Is the Father in the picture? What does he think? I know you are going through a lot right now. Does the fathers parents know? You are not alone. Talk to your daughter and explain to her the ramifications of the abortion and what your niece went through. I don't think she will go wild but, she will need to know that this is a lifetime decision. What she decides now, will effect her the rest of her life and in all of her relationships. I know that probably did not help, but you will be fine. Just take it one day at a time.

Okay, This is hard for me to do because I've been pregnant...At 14. I still think about it 2years later. It's always in the back of my mind. I'll admit, after that I got a bit wild for like a month. It's normal. The only thing you have to do is keep a close eye on her. Spend LOTS of time together being just friends. I remember That's all I wanted to do when Mine was over with. I just wanted to pretend to be innocent again, I wanted to be friends with my mom. Allow her to do that, or everything will go wrong. Or at least that was how I was. And as for the constant reminder that she would get if she aborted it, Let it be a lesson to her.

I can truly say, I've learned my lesson and I now appreciate how precious life and babies are. And by the way, either way.. The baby will ALWAYS be a reminder of something. One way or another. Be a mother if its positive, Yell, cry, and get your feeling out at her. But you have to baby her before [if she gets an abortion] she gets it done, Its the most comforting thing. Let her cry on you hug you. Just don't be distant. I'm crying as I type because its STILL A VERY emotional thing for me.

hope I helped message me if you need anything else.

-steff

I don't think your daughter should get an abortion. Abortions are expensive and can lower your chances of pregnancy in the future. Of course it's also murder when you think about it which is why it's so hard to forget about. If she decides not to go with the abortion she doesn't even have to keep the baby she can put it up for adoption and if she chooses and open adoption she can see her baby when ever she wants. Plus, while she's pregnant there are schools she can go to specificly for pregnant teenagers where she won't be made fun of or be called a slut like at a regular high school. My cousin had a baby when she was a teenager. She put him up for adoption and she says it was the best decision she ever made because he has two parents that love him more than life and they can provide for him better than she can. She was thinking about an abortion, but decided that she could never live with her self knowing that she killed her own child.

I can't relate to you as a parent, but I can relate to you as my little sister has done this same thing. [though her pregnancy test was negative]

In my opinion, if she has decided she is grown up enough to have sex, then she has decided she is grown up enough to face the responsibilities of that action.

I know women in my family who have lost babies, it still haunts them. My mom miscarried, and even that haunts her to this day.

First of all you can not make assumptions on their behavior afterwards. Every girl/woman is different. Its the support after that really counts. Your daughter has a right to make the decision. She is only 15, which is very young to have a child. I was 15 and I had an abortion and I don't regret it. It was a good decision. I changed became more responsible. I finished school. I got married have two wonderful kids now. So what ever she decides be there for her!!

I think you're absolutely right. Abortion doesn't only end a fetus's life, but it affects the would-be mother. At such a young age the effects of depression women get from having an abortion would be devastating.

What I would do is find videos or literature - any type of media - about abortion. Your daughter needs to understand that abortion is a surgical procedure, which could be scary, as well as something she will carry for the rest of her life.

If it were my daughter, I would try and convince her to carry the baby to term and give it up for adoption. Pregnancy would be scary and may interfere with her schooling, but at least she will not have to live with the decision of abortion, and feel like she had given her baby a better life. There are so many couples out there who would love to have a baby and can't. Abortion is a wonderful option because not only will you not feel the guilt, you will be helping someone else, therefore turning a near tragedy into something wonderful.

Hope I could be of help. Good luck!