Why Do I Not Like My Looks?

Honestly I think a lot of it has to do with your age. Everyone at your age has the same self confidence issues. Really,.. this is part of growing up.

What you will probably come to realize is that you are pretty enough for you and ultimately that's all that matters. The only time that there is a problem is if these feelings you have keep you from doing things, or if you starting feeling despair (where you think you may want to hurt yourself, or just stop doing anything altogether).

Unfortunately low self-esteem is a typical trademark of your age group,... that's why people are so drawn to those who have it (or seem to have it anyway).

Like with most people you will grow out of most of this, how quick is really up to you.

Best wishes.

You have low self-esteem because you were told from a young age by a family member that you're ugly; this person was supposed to be close to you, and support you, not ruin your self-image. If you don't like the way you look now, you're free to change your appearance if you believe it's necessary.

In the end, looks are only a part of the puzzle. Even fashion models think they're ugly from time to time. Where you are in reality does not necessarily match up with your own perception of yourself. If someone tells you that you're pretty, especially a guy, take his word for it. In the mean time, focus on the positive characteristics of your personality; they will be your number one assets, and using them will make you feel better about yourself.

I guess the real problem is, how to fix the self esteem.....is not like you can say, self esteem fix yourself, and you wake up the next day, and is all gone. Also, being told, get rid of it, doesn't work. Unfortunately, it takes time and effort to improve, and you're the one that has to do it...
The first thing you must do, is honor yourself, and believe that you're pretty; when others tell you that you're pretty, then also, say thank you to them, and as the mind comes and starts saying, do they really mean it? are they just saying that to be nice? etc? Stop the thoughts, and again, just be grateful to them, and say, confirm to yourself what they have told you is the truth. This alone you will see is not so easy to do.
Then, you already know that you have low self esteem, then, sit down and think how this low self esteem has affected other parts of your life. For example, because you think you're not pretty, does that prevent you from doing activities that you otherwise would do? Does it prevent you from being more outspoken, etc?

Once you identify those, then fight them head on. Ill give you a simple example---lets say that because you think you're not pretty, you also believe that others don't want to listen to you, which in return, has also made you a shy person, or whatever. Well then, once you identify that, do some activity that will help you overcome that fear...The point is, to build the self esteem, you need to identify those leaks that are affecting you, and then you need to slowly start plugging them in. You have to do the work...also, I think they have self esteem books out there; reading those will also help you identify the impact it has had on your life. Good luck, and now is the time to take action! :)

Maybe its because your style is different from others. I had a friend who's mother, and another friends father, who would tell them that they were ugly or they weren't S***... So I kinda understand the effects it can have on a person.

Thats your brother!!! He is suppose to tease you! He didn't have to be so ugly about it, but that's how siblings are. He does that because it is against the "rules" to say you are pretty. (To your face)

In any case, its good that your so humble about you being cute, but you can't think like that...
Do something that would give you more confidence. Like work out, or buy some more clothes.
Do something that makes you happy. You have to start thinking more of yourself. Fall in love with yourself.


Sincerly,
A Loving Black Man

I'm the same way, I was told by boys in my family that I was ugly for years, so now when I get told I'm pretty it feels uncomfortable. If that makes sense.

I used to think like you when I was younger. I realized that it's a "self-evaluation" that you need to do in order to build up your self esteem. Why don't you try writing down the little things that you like about yourself such as "I like the way my hair blows in the wind. It makes me look like a model." Or "I love the way I look when I smile." I would even write down specific compliments when others give them to you. Next, focus on one of your positive attributes on your "list" everyday. Only focus on one and when you feel yourself doubting your attractiveness repeat that attribute out loud. It takes 21 days for something to become a habit. Watch after a month how your attitude will change. Best of luck to you! :)

People tell me the same thing that I'm a very beautiful girl but I don't have a a brother, I have a sister but she tells me constantly that I'm beautiful too but I don't believe them cause I too have a low self-esteem but I don't make it a habit to look in the mirror and go when will I turn into a beautiful swan from an ugly duckling cause deep down when I truly look at myself -I see that I am beautiful inside and out - not matter what kids at school used to tease me as, mostly they would tease me with my name but they were boys - the girls well they said I was ugly but take it from someone who has low self-esteem and is almost there at getting rid of it - you have to love and respect yourself first. You have to see the beauty on you and in you, brothers they will be your brothers but I bet you when you two grow up he'll really tell you that you are a beauty - so stop having a low self-esteem - get rid of it. Plus it's really not healthy!!!