Self-confidence completely gone...

I am in a same but different situation. You are tall and skinny I'm short and fat lol. But it's how you carry yourself and how you approach the people you are interested in. Last night two very attractive guys walked into the club I was in, and one of them caught my eye. Usually I would be like, wow I have no chance in hell with this guy because he is gorgeous and I'm overweight and guys don't typically like that... well by the end of the night he was walking me out to my car holding my hand, gave me a good night kiss and we gave each other our numbers. He works nights, and I work days so I won't get to talk to him until this weekend, and weather it goes anywhere or not, I have no idea. Ill let you know haha.

I know that you are wondering why I'm rambling on about me and not answering your question but I just thought it was nice to share the same feelings with somebody for a change.

I guess all I can really say, is don't rush into the whole dating thing. When you get their number, talk to them for a while. Or let them come to you for a date. Then if they stand you up, they are standing up a date that they basically set up and they are stupid lol.

People have to go through a lot of rejection to make themselves stronger. Eventually you will have that tough skin and in the end, you will end up happy. I don't have hardly any confidence either, but with every rejection, my confidence grows and grows. Sounds strange, but it's true.

Hang in there, not all nice guys finish last.

Good luck.

Have you tried reading books on self confidence or self esteem? I know that sounds stupid but it works. You need to find friends that are single. Even if its one person. Kind of a team. Go out and hang out in places where you can meet single dependable girls. You could be coming on to strong and that is why you are getting stood up. If they stand you up, do not call them. They are in the wrong.

Well personally I am not sure how to reply to this. Only thing I can really say is if you don't like the you now you have to put something into CHANGING it.

If datings not your gig, then try something else. Try focusing on something else that you're actually good at and you like to do. The women will come along eventually (they're everywhere -- they're like mold -- they sprout out at the most unsuspecting places and you can't get rid of them, even if you wanted to! ) so eventually they'll find YOU, especially if you're good at something.

It's like the story about my buddy Tyson Beckford (famous celebrity -- google him if you must). He used to be a super-nerd too, but he worked hard and concentrated on what he loved doing the most -- his num-chuck skills -- and now look at him! Girls LOVE him, they can't get enough of him. He can't even get up in the mornings and walk to his bathroom without tripping on a swimsuit model.

Also, you should watch "School For Scoundrels". It's just a comedy about a nerd, but it's pretty hilarious, and its lite-hearted view on nerdiness may help you not take yours so seriously (and it has a happy ending! ).

Something I've learned in my countless attempts to failure is to just not care so much. If it happens, it happens. Girls will snuff out desperate guys like a hound dog.

Remember, something us guys are blessed with is our appearance doesn't play as much as a factor then it does for girls (unfortunately for them).

I know the feeling, "you'll meet someone, lots of fish and the don't worries. " That's the attitude you'll have to go with.

From your post, it sounds like what lasae pointed out, coming on too strong. This is equivalent to throwing up while talking to a girl at a bar.

I've been the single guy as well in my circle of friends (feels like you're a loser doesn't it? ) but like others have said. Making single friends really helps with meeting people.

Look at rejection in a positive way, a "right of passage" mentality.

"Behind greatness, there must be failure. There are those who fall in a hole and stay and die, others climb out to become stronger and more aware of the pitfalls of life. "

-on the spot son!

I can only assume these people you set up dates with were under a different impression, because I don't know anyone who would just not show up if they had actually agreed to something. At the very least, almost anyone would have apologized if they truly forgot or something came up.

My suggestion is not to meet up for blind dates, but rather get to know someone more than just "chatting up" before you go out. Are these dinner dates? How serious are you making them? What exactly do you say when you are asking a girl out? Details like that can make or break a connection. You might try something casual like lunch, coffee, or something fun like bowling before you move on to something more serious like a dinner date.

Also, if you don't at least appear to be confident many women won't even give you a chance. The only way to overcome this is with practice and mental coaching. As long as you take care of yourself physically (grooming, working out, whatever) and know you're great on the inside you shouldn't have any problem feeling comfortable and confident.

This sounds really odd to me. I know that there is not a lot of room to explain a situation here, but it seems like there is a lot missing.

You have gotten a lot of girls numbers (obviously the real ones, because you are able to talk to them to set up a date), and then, they keep not showing up to the date, and THEN not answering your calls (or hanging up on you). Typically getting the number is the hardest part, and from what you are saying you have been able to get those,. But then they don't show up.

Where are you meeting these girls? Do you know them before? Are any of these girls friends of friends?

Also,. I'm curious as to how you charm them, and them out of showing up to a date. If a girl isn't interested, then they won't give you their number, and if they do for some reason (they are drunk) they won't set up a date with you,. They just won't answer your calls.

There really isn't enough information here to know why this is happening? I would agree with you, that it is something that you are doing, and it would do you well to try and figure out what that is (coming on too strong, calling too much, seeming needy, etc, etc --- I don't know, just examples) otherwise when you do start talking to other girls, the same thing could happen, and that will not do anything positive for your self esteem.

Feel free to expand on this question. Also, I would recommend talking to your friends too. What do they notice. What do they think. You can also talk to your friends girlfriends to get their input.

Best wishes.