One night when I was at my partner's place, I saw an unused condom below his bed side. We usually don't use condom whenever we had sex and we don't have sex in his bed anymore so am very much surprised to see it. I didn't want to asked him about it because we are FWBs. And we've never had sex for a long time (6months) before that night. About 2 days after that night, we had sex. He usually pulls out so we never use condom. This time while in the middle of doing it - we had to stop and he asked if he could put condoms on as he can't hold it. And we both don't want me to get pregnant. So I said, he should. And then he put the condom on and we get on it again. And then about 3 minutes after that, he came. This is the thing, my experience with him is - if we haven't done it for awhile - the next time we did it - he wouldn't be able to hold it like he used to so he would need a condom. And if we do it often - he can hold it until he's sure that I'm done (which takes kind of a longer time :) ).
My question is what is that unused condom doing by his bedside. Did he recently have someone sleep over in his bed when I wasn't having sex with him and wasn't able to use the condom? If he had - how come he wasn't able to hold it with me when we had sex again? Or was he going use the condom to masturbate? Or maybe that's just a left over condom, maybe there's more in there before and were thrown in the garbage already. What do you think girls and guys?
If he does have another partner, I suggest using the condoms the whole time from now on... it sounds like you two have skipped them occasionally. FWB should not equal STD.
Hahahahaha. I'm sorry that's funny that you think anything other than he's having sex with another girl. But an open minded thinker you are. And typically no, guys do not jerk off with condoms on. 97% chance he's having sex with someone else. 2% chance he's jerkin off with a condom on. Ill leave that 1% open to the imagination of you, the open minded thinker. Why don't you just ask him if he had sex with someone else. You get to be as bold as you want with a cut buddy. You can ask them anything, because you don't owe them anything, and I hope you don't feel emotionally attached because if you do he's more than your sex buddy. And he owes you nothing, that's why he had sex with someone else. And as far as him coming fast, and being able to hold it. That can go both ways. If you guys hadn't did it in a while. He should lasted a bit longer. Because he should have felt he needed to re-establish his presence with you, and LAY IT DOWN RIGHT. Or. He could have came quick because he hasn't had it in a while. Its not always our fault when we let it go a little faster than normal ok. Sometimes its just that good and we can't help it.
So next time you make him come fast, go in the bathroom with a cup of cool aid, flex in the mirror, and look at him and say " now hurry up and get it back up, I'm gonna tear that up again " he'll get mad hopefully and wanna BEAT THE BRAKES OFF You. And if he feels he has something to prove. He'll last longer
LOL..i know it's funny... I was laughing myself why I post the question... but thanks for the answer though... and I know you're right with the 97%.. I guess I just need confirmation w/c I know I won't get from him because he will deny it if I asked him.. - 5 months ago
It sounds to me like he may be having sex with someone else. I would ask him about it, since you guys seem to have a kind of loose arrangement in that area; the FWB thing. I don't think many guys, if any, use a condom to masturbate. What's the point of that?
Thanks.. I believe he is.. guess I just need confirmation which I wouldn't get from him...i know if asked him it's either he would deny it or I won't get a straight answer... - 5 months ago
First thing you can still get pregnant even if he pulls out. So be careful. The whole condom thing, really I don't know what to tell you. Maybe it is a previous one he thought he threw away and missed the garbage and wasn't aware that it was on the floor. Or he is with someone else.
Sorry to say the consensus is in, and everyone thinks he is sleeping with someone else, most guy's don't like using condoms during sex so I'd tend to think he would not go to the trouble of putting one on just to stroke it.
The good thing is at least he was using a condom with that someone else.
The only sure way to know is to ask, as hard as that is for you to do, I think you need to hear it from him, not us.
Maybe he dropped it. Maybe he has a girlfriend. Who cares you said you FWB? Or do you kinda like this guy? I however have never heard a guy masturbating with a condom on. They don't like using them during sex, I can't imagine during masturbation. You should just ask him.
To be honest I think he's cheating but ask him out right just be blunt about it don't beat around the bush if he has been then chuck him in the rubbish lol or don't say anything and get more evidence nothing stays a secret for long.
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