Is it smart to stay a virgin until I feel intimate with a guy?

The first is a common lie that is easy to buy into and the lie is if I don't get intimate soon it won't happen. There is nothing wrong with being the forty year old virgin if you haven't found love yet. Intimacy with out love is simply lust and if you do love a person you will wait until it is right for both people. In my opinion the best time is after marriage but that's just my personal view. It should be based on love though. As far as the rumor that sex between two virgins is horrible I've heard from people who waited that nothing is further from the truth.

The good news is I respect myself,the bad is at what cost?
I have often doubted,and questioned myself if I should be boring like all other guys.
I find it very,very hard to meet women and time to time I feel like giving up.
So I have paid a high price for being a virgin
Let me know if anyone agrees or disagrees

I wouldn't say it's dumb or smart, it's just a decision that you currently have.

But you don't need to fall in love with someone to have sex. Merely liking a guy is usually enough. ;-)

I'm 21 still virgin. Just have not found the one. Sooner or later you will find the right person. And you will be glad you waited

There are plenty of people in your situation. But what is the reasoning behind you being a virgin? Religious?

That's nothing,I'm 36 yrs old and I'm a virgin.
Let me say 1st why do people make a big deal about having sex?
#2 one night stands are a bad idea.
and yes,I've had a chance or 2 to have sex w/women,but I need to really feel it first.
Don't listen to what other people say at least you have morals and values.
I respect that in women

It's better when you do it with someone you care about that also cares about you in return. If it's just a "hookup" then there isn't much pleasure in it. At least, that is my experience. So don't go and do anything just to feel like you fit in. Stick to your guns!

An amusing joke I heard that I think about whenever I am frustrated, "Sex is like air. Only important when you aren't getting any. "

I think it is perfectly normal and very honorable. Don't feel like you are missing out on anything because sex is overrated most of the time. Don't get me wrong, I love sex but I wish things wouldn't have happened the way they did for me. I lost my virginity when I was 15 to a girl who was 18. If I knew any better I would have stayed strong and not given in to her advances. In retrospect I wish I would have waited and shared it with someone I love because once your virginity is gone you no longer hold sex in high regard and it becomes much more casual (which is what I am sure your friends talk about) than it ever should be. My first was wasted on somebody I never was in a relationship with and I don't talk to today. We had a casual booty call situation for a couple of months and now I don't think I even have a pic of her. I hope by the end of my answer you realize that you should hold strong and wait for at least a love. Maybe not the one but somebody you can remember for much more than they took my virginity. Plus I think it is extremely attractive when a woman is a virgin. Not from a conquer perspective but knowing if that magical day comes that she decides to share that with you that you really mean something to this person. There is no grander honor than to be someones first. Stay strong and Good Luck!

Don't feel like that. I'm 17 and I don't feel pressured to give into others and be like them. My virginity is very special to me. I want to give it to my love. I'm not waiting for marriage or"the one" or nothing. I just don't wanna give it away so freely. Maybe were the same in that way. I don't know. Maybe. Just don't give it away because your scared. Give it 2 the 1 you love. Make sure his motives are pure 2. That he won't leave when he gets what he wants. Your a virgin. That shows responsibility, power, stability, bravery and honor. How much more could you b?. Give it 2 the 1 you love. Not the 1 who you want 2 make love you. You don't love some1 because their beautiful. Their beautiful because you love them. Think about it

I too am a virgin. But to answer your question, I think it would be smart to wait till you feel intimate with that special someone. Just letting go of your virginity [as I define as not being penetrated by a penis] not only risks the shallowness of other people's rumors and harrassment, but leaves you lacking in the self respect and value department. There are plenty of ways to go around being sexually aroused without having intercourse [even though that's how everyone plays it out to be, the 'you just have to have sex, nothing else satisfies' attitude], if you want to go into that realm with a guy, try verbal stimulation. Masturbation was intented for a reason. =] But trust me, if you guys can tap into eachother's mental satisfaction, you'll be that much more comfortable and rewarded later. [and you'll have one up on everyone else who just assumes intercourse is the only way. ] Physical virginity with the feeling of actual sex. Nothing better, eh?

Let me put it this way... 1 in 2 sexually active people have HPV. Men experience no symptoms, and are only carriers. Women can get herpes and/or cervical cancer as a result of HPV. So say you have had sex with 3 sexually active males, there is a 1/8 chance that you were not exposed to HPV.
So I would think safety! By the way, HPV exposure can happen with a condom.

As for intimacy, your feelings are what they are, and sex is a physical action. Whether you love someone or not, you will essentially be doing the same thing. You can't make love like you do cookies. The fact is that you should wonder about whether or not you trust your partner for biological purposes. Do you trust your partner's history and judgment, and do you trust that in the event that you get pregnant that you will be on the same page?

For me, it is better to have sex with someone I love, but everyone is different. As well, just because it is not better doesn't equate to it being bad. Sex can be very enjoyable even if you do not love the person. You do, however, feel more comfortable the more intimate you are with someone because you can let your guard down.

Ultimately, it is how you will feel later, and that is something that only YOU can gauge. and the thing is that no matter which direction you go, someone will have something to say about it.... case in point.

Whatever floats your boat, but consider all sides.

I'm 18 and I'm a virgin, and I'll be until I get married and I know that you are not going to be 40 and not married so just wait for the right person and do it until you get married I think that virginity is the sweetest thing ever because I think that it's the best gift that I'll ever give to my husband.

I don't really think I need to expand too much because all these wonderful people have said what I was already thinking. I'm 23 and I am a virgin. I have dated guys and not one of them thought I was a "weirdo" or something. They all respected my decision and honestly, I have managed to stay friends with them to this day. When you decide to give it away you want to give it to someone that you love and that deserves it. You have nothing to feel ashamed about. I used to feel embarrassed to tell people I was a virgin when the convo came up but I don't anymore. Most of my friends are not virgins but I know that they all would have preferred a better "first experience. " The time will come one day trust me. Until then, be proud that you choose to stand strong in a sex-driven society. :)