If no guys ever showed in nightclubs would girls still go there "just to dance"?

The whole point of clubbing is to go out and have fun. To get out of the house and meet new people- as in MEET NEW GUYS. Durr

I don't go to clubs anymore but when I was younger and single the point was to have fun and flirt with the guys. I don't think it would have been nearly as fun without them. We used to have contests to see who could end up exchanging phone numbers with the most people by the end of the night. We flirted with the guys at the bar to get them to buy us drinks too. If there were just a bunch of girls that would be no fun. Sure there are some creepy fellows, but at least you are in a crowd where they can't do much harm.

The best part of going out is getting ready to go out. To look good - feel good - and dance our calories away. Why we don't do this at home? Cause there's more booze in a club.

I figure I'll give a proper answer since I have such a long comment to respond to from hyp65.

I do take dancing lessons, as a matter of fact, in swing, salsa, tango, waltz, you name it. I'm a competitive ballroom dancer. Show me where you can take dance lessons that in any way resemble a nightclub environment and I'd be all over it. And if I could find a good business partner, and I were inclined towards the entrepreneurial life, I would open an all-female club. I think it has major potential. Finally, it's just not socially acceptable (at least in my city) to go to a club without getting dolled up. Even my friends would think it strange if I wanted to go in just a t-shirt and shorts and running shoes, despite the fact that it would be much easier to dance in that.

As emmaroh said, decent guys would be shocked at what goes on with some drunk guys in clubs. I've had a guy try to put his hand into my underwear when I've been dancing with him for less than a minute and I hadn't even properly seen his face, let alone gotten his name. Sorry boys, but that's private property until I get to know you very well. And trust me, I'm not bragging when I say that. It genuinely shook me up for the whole night. He wouldn't leave me alone, he tried to follow me out of the club. I think if he hadn't been too drunk to keep track of me, something very bad could have happened. It was an extremely harrowing experience.

Personally, and I know I'm opening myself up for attack here, but I think the reason guys are getting so defensive about this comes down to insecurity. Some guys just aren't comfortable with the idea that women can have fun and dance and be sexy without you. It's why men are turned on and threatened at the same time by female couples. Perhaps the fact that when I go to a club, I may be wanting to dance with a woman and not a man that night. Men find that threatening to their sexuality and masculinity, but it's a fact they'll have to get used to.

I think both guys are right. It would be fun a few times to go to a guy-less club, but let's face it, even though we most of the time dress up to impress girls, we also do it for the guys. As much as we hate been felt up by them and harassed at times, we do love the attention the one we are eying might give us. We'll most of the times find a guy we find attractive over there, we might not hook up with him or even talk at all, but the flirting is part of the fun, showing them our dance moves or sexy little hair flip, whatever it is we do, we can't do that with other girls. Maybe I'm a bit biased since I tend to get along better with guys than girls so I'd get a little bored after a few nights.

Yes & we'd still look as hot as ever. Like some people have said girls dress to impress other girls. If we're not going to the club to meet guys, then we're going to give impressions.

HELL YEAH I would! I love to go out to a club and dance! And I would much rather not have guys there. When I'm dancing the last thing I want is some dude rubbing his hard on all over my ass. And girls might hook up with a guy she's met at a club every now and then but trust me that's not why she went. That's just the end of the night bonus!


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Brittany

It just wouldn't be the same at home...you can't possibly play the music that loud and there are certain elements that just couldn't be recreated at home...like the crowd and the energy.

I would. I'd actually prefer it, to be completely honest.

I don't hook up with guys I meet at clubs, and because of that, they end up being more of a hassle than anything else. I mean, sure, it's nice when you don't have to pay for your own drinks, especially since I'm underage and couldn't buy them myself anyway. But I always feel bad, because I know when a guy buys me a drink, he wants something that I'm not willing to give him. I feel as though I'm taking advantage. Because as soon as we're dancing and he tries to feel me up, I'm gone. I'd rather he spend his time with a girl he's got a chance with, for his sake.

I go to clubs for the environment. The lights, the bass pulsating through the floor, the massive crowd all moving together. It's something I couldn't possibly replicate at home.

Anyone seen mean girls

When she's in the mall and they all turn into animals?


well that is what a club is like. Its just basically a "hunting" ground for either sex to show off their moves to try to get with a member of the opposite sex.

Humans are still driven by animal instincts. If you think about it cavemen times weren't that long ago, all that stuff is still programmed into our heads.

Believe

Annwyl-cariad: Great insightful response.

I think you are dead on about the fear and threaten of a mans sexuality and ego about the idea of women being able to go dance and have fun without male influence. I defiantly got really defensive of the thought that you girls don't want us there (this makes me feel creepy).

I also understand the joy of dancing. I did guys and dolls in high school and currently dabble with hip hop. Although for us, the thought of dancing with just men in public isn't accepted in the heterosexual culture. I have gone out to a club and danced with a bunch of guys and had a blast. As fun as I had with a group of males (who are also somewhat trained or at least enjoy dancing not just to pick up chicks) it's rare that I find myself in those situations. I also think has to do with the type of dancing that goes on in night clubs that takes away male male dancing

In the old days 1920-40s, two guys can go to a swing dance and have sorts of fun. Although to swing dance, you would have to at least practice and truly enjoy it. Today bump and grind dance floor extravaganza somewhat permits any Joe to go out and have a shot at it. Unless you've practice some moves at home, bump and grinding with other males isn't exactly the thing to do.

This also probably has another effect with hyp65 and my selfs understanding of how girls can have fun with just other females.

Anyways, you are a dancer who genuinely loves to do so. My other post was more geared towards the general population of girls who go out (21-24 in my case). Maybe my samples of girls are a bad representation of the nightclub crowd but from what I've observed. They get dressed up to their finest and sexiest outfits. Then flirt, tease and dance with one another until they find a worth adversary. Then all I hear afterwards is about this guy and that guy. All of this is built around that tension between the two genders.

As far as guys being creepy, I've seen my fair share of creepy stuff from when guys try to hit on my friends and from the stories they tell. I forget the dangerous vibes girls have to endure on outings, as us guys don't have the same rapist fears. For us, the attention equates to a boost in ego but I can see how that doesn't always reflect women who are used to it (part of me still thinks you girls are all attention seeking whores, but well leave that aside for now since I'm trying to be objective).

Hyp65 is right:

Girls go their for the attention, to tease and an excuse to show off the moves you practice in front of the mirror.

Why don't girls like guys rubbing up on them? Because they will seem like a slut in front of their peers.

Dancing is sexy, liberating and flirtatious, the presence of both sex very much so enhances the atmosphere regardless of any contact.

So ya, we act as the "crowd" of attention for you girls to dance for. "no touch no touch!"

Hell no they won't hahaha