I gave this guy head recently, and let me just say first off that I had a stuffy nose, so I could barely breathe. It was pretty difficult for me but I persisted.
Anyway, while I was giving him head, (I was on my knees) I hit my gag reflex and had to stop and sort of choked a little bit. After this cough/gag he was like "what the hell was that? " which I took as pretty rude, but maybe it was my fault for gagging like that?
I immediately told him to lay down and it was much easier from there on. I finished and swallowed, the whole bj took about 2 or 3 minutes. I thought that was pretty decent time.
But afterward I couldn't help but feel like because I gagged it was a bad experience for him. Does it sound like a disaster?
Actually, I almost want to flip this around. I and a bunch of other guys that I know actually find it sexy when a girl gags a bit.
First of all, it means that they're willing to take more of the guy's penis in their mouth, which is always hot, to the point that they hit their gag reflex. This means that the girl is willing to put her own comfort on the line to satisfy her man, and that's just so sexy.
Also, as stupid and childish as it sounds, if a girl hits her gag reflex and chokes a bit while giving head it make a guy feel like his penis is too much for her to handle. It makes us feel bigger, and a guy who feels bigger in the pants is definitely going to have a smile on his face.
There are extremes however, like if the girl actually throws up. That can put a little dampener on things, but I've had a girl throw up while giving me a blowjob and I just kind of giggled. She originally felt bad and thought that I was laughing at her. I could tell by her facial expression that she was ashamed so I told her the truth, that it really turned me on that she was willing to go that far to satisfy me and it really put her mind at ease.
Some advice for the girls, if you gag and you get a negative response from your guy, just tell them that they're penis is just big and you're having a hard time handling it. A girl telling her man that he's big is definitely going to turn that frown upside down.
No, I don't think it was a disaster. You recovered from a bad experience, finished, and from what you said, satisfied him. Actually, it sounds to me like he could have been more polite to you, and showed more appreciation for what you did for him. Don't worry, you did fine!
Well, in general gagging IS going to put a damper on the mood more often than not. It sounds like you had a successful recovery, so not a disaster. But yes, it is a turn off somewhat.
That said, a really enthusiastic BJ from a sex positive girl that gets so "into it" that she might overdo it and cough and choke a little, laugh it off, and keep going, well, that is going to be a VERY desirable partner.
So it's all in the attitude and recovery, baby. You might have to bluff your way through it the first time, but be CONFIDENT and enthusiastic about your sexuality at EVERY turn in bed and your guy will follow along blissfully. But panic and start asking him "oh my god, was that gross? Am I a disaster? Is it my fault? " and you're going to turn him off QUICK.
Since you think "maybe it was my fault? " I wonder if you don't already have a self confidence issue (more so than a bj technique issue). AND he seems to have reacted rather rudely, which, if you are a doormat is NOT surprising because jerks like doormats. Just something to think about.
Before you say that gagging puts a damper on things and that it is a turn off. Try giving a bj your self. They aren't always pleasant. - 4 months ago
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Gagging isn't sexy; self-fellation won't change this. Me gagging on myself is very unsexy. But consider this: Don't give BJ's you don't want to give. Sheesh. But if you're into it, then you're gagging because it hit the back of your throat, not disgust. - 4 months ago
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I was totally into pleasing him, I just couldn't help that gag. Obviously it wasn't a sexy moment. I just wanted to know if it would deem the whole experience a bad one or if it was something a guy could get over. - 4 months ago
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Definitely get-overable! That he could last only 2 or 3 minutes after you restarted is a good clue. Still, master the "graceful, confident" recovery and you can try (and mess up) just about anything in bed and most guys are just happy to be there. - 4 months ago
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