What Are Relationships, Dating, Kissing, And Sex Like..?!

Relationships are amazing if you find the right person!
just keep looking and you'll find that right girl for you!
theres still hope. If you bring up "smart stuff" then don't! Girls don't like that.
treat them gentle and eventually you'll find the right one!

If you're consistently rejected by girls for 22 years, your bad luck with girls is probably part of a larger problem. Look up advice on the internet to help you succeed socially, talk to a good psychiatrist to see if you might have a diagnosable (and therefore fixable) problem, and really evaluate your social life and how others see you.

What do you do on weekends? Do you have a lot of friends? Do you have a social life? If you don't then you should definitely fix that. No girl wants a guy who only cares about girls. It's boring.

Think about how you look. Are you unhealthy--weight, skin, actual disease? Figure out how to fix it. Remember that everyone, even the skinniest of recovering anorexics, needs a little exercise to keep their heart and muscles healthy.

Think about style. The best thing to do is go into a store with real service and ask an employee with style to help you find clothes. If you are overweight, I would postpone this shopping trip until you've reached a healthy weight. If your body isn't at a healthy fat:muscle ratio, I would postpone this trip till you've reached a healthy shape.

Another thing you should realize is that asking out a lot of girls is not the same thing as trying to get girls. Yes, you are putting yourself out there, and I applaud you for that. But really (and successfully) trying to get girls involves making yourself attractive and ready for a relationship.

I noticed that you give us a lot of information on your plight right there on your profile. I realize that this might be because this is an advice site and you want us to know the full extent of your problem. But it's more probable that you have a bad self-image, are insecure, and only really think about this issue. Don't make yourself into a guy who's ONLY a 31-year-old virgin (feel sorry for him)--you need to have some real personality under there. Points for getting solutions to your problems by posting questions on your website. Now put them into action. It's going to be hard, but you do have to do it--you aren't allowed to complain if you're not doing all you can to fix the problem. (When you start doing all you can to fix the problem, you still can't complain--takes valuable time that could be used to fix it! )

The advice I just gave isn't a breakthrough--it's exactly the same stuff as Belleza, Julia-gulia, and That-guy said. If you haven't started listening to it, I don't think you will with me. Don't get me wrong, I hope you--and who knows, you might've been waiting for a four-person vote before springing into action! But listen to the advice you get, don't be someone who enjoys being a 31-year-old virgin, single and looking. I know that if the universe dropped a girl into your lap, you'd take her, but it almost seems like you'd rather spend the time till then complaining. Sorry I had to say that, but remember that your bad luck with girls isn't the be-all and end-all of life. . . And that it isn't just luck.

Sweetie. Your scaring all the girls away by what you wrote on your profile. Listen never tell a girl your a virgin at least now until you meet her but then again it would be a complication for you when you actually do have sex with her! There are girls out there who would love to deflower a guy who's a virgin but then there are girls like my friend who went out on a date with a guy and when she found out he was a virgin she didn't want to take his virginity cause she has done it already - its really hard and to give you an advice I would have given you an advice what any girl and a guy has given you already! Maybe change your style, or change your approach or the way you present yourself - don't be too straightforward! Be laid back! But also remember to be yourself - just not what you've written here - seriously don't say things like that - trust me girls don't want to hear that!

I know a guy who sounds just like you.... You know why I won't date him? It's not because he isn't hot; that's not it at all. It is because of his personality and his lack there of.

First realize your level. By looking at your picture I realize your not that attractive stud muffin but your not ugly either. Also if you dress like a stud that is always a plus so go shopping at Express or Urban outfitters and get help when shopping there from the staff... Your probably a little over weight (maybe use some of that pent up frustration to work out) and you could use a good hair style (see a girly saloon to help you with that). So realize that you shouldn't be asking out the miss popular hot skinny chicks who spend 100 bucks to get their hair styled. You don't do those things so you probably wouldn't have a lot in common with her anyways. You look more like the goofy, reserved homely type and you should look there first.

Next lets talk about your approach. Most guys who are frustrated that they keep getting rejected go for the Big Bambino approach (Or the babe ruth for those non baseball fans). This means you ask out anything with boobs because your hoping that by increasing your number of chances one of those girls will say yes. THIS IS BAD NEWS! Every girl knows this type of guy and every girl out there can't stand it. We want to feel special and despite your promises to be a great guy and a real class act... we know your not - your the unsuccessful player. We want to know that you like us, wither you think we are the best catch in the room or if you know us and think we are just that awesome. We do not want you to get rejected and then go try on someone else. Seriously, your standards shouldn't be anything with boobs you should just pick one girl out.. and only one.

We like to reject guys to get a feel for how much they want us. If you randomly see me in the bar and I reject you then obviously you were just looking for something easy. Instead try saying something like "that is unfortunate because I really wanted to get to know you, you look like a cool cat." Also, after being rejected make sure you buy the girl a drink. Don't buy her one before you approach because she's just going to be nice to get more booze. Seriously, at a bar I want a guy to do something creative to get my attention and then if I reject him to still be interested in only me at that bar. Then at the end of the night if he's done this he might have a shot. So instead of sending a drink my way why not send me a song. Or why not go talk to my girls and find out what my favorite song is and get it played for me by tipping the DJ.

And if you are trying the friend thing first that doesn't mean your trying the friend thing to get into my pants and then bouncing when I'm not all up on you. Please don't do this! A guy who does this is a player and you might think girls find that attractive, but they don't! What they do like is a confident guy who isn't overly trying to impress.

Try being some girls friends first before asking them out. Sometimes being friends help the relationship grow good luck. When you least except it you will met someone.

Relationships are nice but they are also extremely complicated. Women love confident men and it seems to me like your confidence isn't where it needs to be. You may have the bravery to ask a woman out but if you are not giving out confidence and you look scared she is going to say no. Also, try hanging out at different places where a wide variety of women are out. Maybe a volunteer area in your neighborhood, coffee shops etc. Have you tried online dating? Maybe take some confidence classes. There are so many options out there that you can't go wrong. ANYONE can find that special someone. Trust me. It's just about rearranging your thinking. Also, if you come across as NEEDING a relationship women pick up on that as well. Good luck to you!

First of all relax I believe I understand what your going through because I can imagine the emptiness and no one to look over to when your sad or just to talk to. But you can find a relationship and these bad things should be looked over. Don't live your life from the past but the future. "What you need to know about the past is that no matter what has happened, it has all worked together to bring you to this very moment. And this is the moment you can choose to make everything new. " It seems to me that you don't get out enough the more you are out in public the more the chances raise you will find someone. I believe that your first impression is probably what is lacking try to walk more confident and above all be yourself. They will come I promise you!

Hey. like the girls said, this looks, scary. but I'll give you my advice. first of all f*** the numbers. don't keep telling yourself for 22 years. it sounds depressing man. it's most likely with yourself. look at yourself. observe it. how do you talk, approach a girl? and when you go to ask a girl out, you gotta know, this girl is yours from inside. don't be afraid from rejection. be yourself. and I'm just throwing it out there, again just saying it, sometimes, if you want, go out for random sex, just saying it again, go with a prostitute, see how sex is. it helps to take out that first excitement out and confidence. hope helped!

I'm not exactly the expert on these matters, in fact I'm in your shoes just as 18 rather than 32. I was thinking the same as you no longer than 2-3 weeks ago then something dawned on me, it really isn't important.
It'll be difficult but just stick it in the back of your mind, if it happens it happens.

Though if it really is important to you then I point you in the direction of motorboater's answer. Best wishes for the future.

I think you put too much emphasis on relationships in context to your life.

Learn to love yourself first and live your life the way it is meant to be and I think you'll find that love will find you.

... and above all else, don't feel sorry for yourself or compare yourself to "everyone else" because everyone wants to find someone who can make them happy but in reality, you owe it to yourself to make yourself happy first before you can embrace another person.

As for your question what relationships, dating, kissing, and sex are all like? To be quite frank they are over rated! Most times you will find that the chase is better than the catch.

... but once you find your soul mate, you'll find that it is like soaring in the sky like an eagle and knowing that the two of you could conquer anything life has planned for you, good or bad!

I feel for you buddy, I'll answer you in two parts.
what does it feel like:
- it's the most overwhelming sensual feeling a person can have, if you are in love. If you're not in love then its good but you're not missing out as much as you think

Why are you still single till this day since 10?
- look at it this way, you have to learn to walk before you learn to run. What I mean by that is, you're jumping the gun, girls don't date anyone, they have to feel a little secure. Get to know them, show them who you are, be the best out there. When you leave the house, make sure your clothes are clean, the hair is fixed, the face is shaved, you smell good, and most of all your head held high. Learn to walk, get to know the girls. It's not target practice where eventually you hit the target with as many bullets as possible.

P. S. Be careful what you wish for, being love might be the greatest thing ever, but when it ends if it ends then you are in a world of heart break and sorrows. Don't try so hard, you might end up hurt

I agree with everything motorboater said. But you should also add some side-view pictures in your profile (for some reason I have a feeling those will be interesting to look at -- or at least keep on file). And maybe also add some "action shots" of you playing badminton, or flying a kite or something. But remember saying less is more, but a picture says a thousand words (so choose wisely).

Dude, you're funny, but I don't buy it. (Captioning EVERY photo with "31, Virgin, Single, and Looking" in case we missed it the first 5 times).

I think you might be insincere because your whole question isn't even what you're interested in. Rather, its just a preamble for yet another announcement that you're a 31-year-old virgin and a retelling of how you got there...that seems to be your WHOLE point.

What is kissing like? Really? NOBODY has kissed you? Not even grandma? It's kind of like grandma, except you get to use your tongue with your girlfriend.

Nobody has ever responded to you, so you've spent 21 years learning from those experiences to hone the technique we see on display here? It hasn't occurred to you yet that your "I'm an honest virgin" technique isn't working?

Okay, here's how you can preserve your "honesty" and rewrite your profile you do don't continue to scare away the villagers:

1. Show only photo six. For whatever reason you look better in that one. It's not dishonest to NOT show your bad pics. It's just a better use of your match.com subscription fee.
2. Caption it "Me, in the office" or ANYTHING without "Virgin" or "Looking" in it.
3. In your text, tell us a little about the things of interest and value about yourself. Desperation is not valuable to others. Don't lie, just don't define yourself as a desperate virgin.

Have a job? "I have a great job in quality assurance and like helping people on the job"
Go outside? "I like to stay active walking/skiing/playing badminton/flying kites"
Stay inside? "I enjoy reading, movies, cooking, and computer technology"
Been anywhere? "I've traveled to Kansas, Puerto Rico, and Albania"
Have any interests or mad skillz "I play a mean oboe and can complete a 500 piece jigsaw puzzle in under a day."
What would you like to do, other than have sex and kiss "I'd enjoy going to concerts, hiking, and maybe taking a cooking class with someone special"

Paste them all together and some keyword in there will spike someone's interest and you'll get a response. But nobody is interested in deflowering you or pitying you until you rework your presentation. Give a woman OTHER reasons to spend time with you, and then be nice to her. Soon, she will pity and then deflower you.

Also "just because I am a virgin does not mean I do not know what to do!" is the least convincing claim to expertise ever written. It actually does mean you know nothing actual about sex, confirmed by the question you yourself asked above.

And for pete's sake, keep your list of "requirements" (18-32, no piercings...) in your head and off your profile page! NOBODY wants to jump through your hoops, so quit asking them to.