Ok, I met this guy online a couple of months ago. We hit it off right away and have an amazing connection (we both were stunned at how intense it was). We're very compatible on many levels. He was the first to point this out. We'd been emailing everyday and talking on the phone every couple of days. We both said things like we missed each other, were thinking about each other, wished we were together etc. We've met a couple of times and constantly touched and looked into each other's eyes. Then I did something stupid, I asked what he wanted out of this and if he wanted a relationship. A typical stupid move that us girls do sometimes. He answered that he was not looking for anything serious at the moment and wasn't in the position emotionally to do so. And that it wouldn't be fair to the other person. Now I know he was hurt deeply in a relationship that ended a couple months before him and I met and he's admitted before that he's very guarded and jaded as a result. I don't know the specifics, all he's said is that he was led to believe there was something there that wasn't. So now I rarely initiate contact with him because I don't want to push him away (he admitted I contacted him too much before) but he has emailed/called me on his own. Ok guys, my question is this. Should I just give up on this guy? Is he really not emotionally ready? Or does he just want a friend with benefits? Please help. I really like this guy and don't want to let him go but I don't want to push him away either.
I think that he's just looking for a friend with benefits because up until the day that you had asked that question you two were very touchy feely, right? He probably backed off right when you said that because he thought he wouldn't be able to do anything with you. But I could be wrong. If you want to stay friends with him than that's great but let him know your not interested in a pure sexual relationship. Good Luck!
Stay friends with him, but date other guys. If he's ever ready to date you, he'll let you know. I can't say if he's not ready emotionally or if he's just saying that to lead you on since I don't know what his experience was and how it affected him; but just because he's not ready doesn't mean you have to wait on him. Go out with other guys and see what happens with him. Good luck.
Good idea. I'll stay in touch with him, not constant tho, and just move on. Decided I'm not going to take the initiative in talking to him. If he wants to talk to me, he knows how to reach me. Might not be a bad idea if I'm not so available to him anymore - 4 months ago
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months. I'm technically his first long term relationship "serious" so he was treating me great and we...
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Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
My ideal date would be a movie mybe a funny comdey movie that we can discuss over dinner at a resturant not too fancy though and maybe go by the water and walk by the shore to get our fet wet. And ending with him taking me home and a kiss on the cheek maybe the lips if I know him well enough and I really like him.
Afterwards..what will your date know about you?
He would know my personality how funny I could be and how I could be great to be around whether am a friend or a girlfriend
(Age:25 to 29)
When: 4 months ago
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