I walked in the house and my boyfriend was on the phone and chatting on IM. He told the person that he was IMing that he had to go. This person he met on myspace that day. He kept talking on the phone till the person told him they had to go. When he got off the phone I asked who he was chatting with.
He told me who he was talking to on the phone but not the computer. Later that day he woke up from a nap and I was IMing my sister. He wanted to know who I was talking to, but I would not tell him 'cause I was mad he lied to me. He got mad at the fact that I would not tell him who I was talking to. He said that I was ignoring him.
He works in another state and comes home on the weekends, so he had to tell me I made him feel like he was not welcome at home. Since he has been working away from home he has a problem with me hanging out and is always wondering why I didn't answer his text right away. Why did it take me so long to answer the phone. He even calls the house phone just to see if I'm here. When we're together we usually have a good time. He's always so sweet. I know that he has been hurt before and is insecure. He never really showed it until he started working away from home. Please guys help me.
I would firstly assume that he is insecure about the relationship. He's working out of state away from someone that he has feelings for, and that places a tough strain on a relationship. Have faith though trust until that trust is broken.
UltraDramatic
(Age:30 to 35)
When: More than a year ago
Okay, first of all, how did he lie to you? If he didn't tell you who he was IM-ing, did you continue to ask him?
Secondly, you not telling him you were talking to your sister because you were mad at him? At your age? Childish. Get over yourself.
Thirdly, if you act this way a lot when he comes home, then he may have a legitimate gripe.
Finally, is there any reason why he might be insecure? He's got a serious issue with trust, it sounds like. How did he get hurt in the past? Do you think he sees the same kind of pattern happening in his relationship with you? It sounds as though the two of you need to sit down and really hash out why he has these trust issues. If it's something he can't move past, perhaps he should leave.
Continue on doing what you were doing.........not getting back to him 'right away' by phone or by text messaging. Men want us at their beck and call to 'keep tabs' on us.........so that they can do 'their sneaky little dirt'..........I have been there several times.
I rarely call any BF that I have, I let them call me most of the time and since I nor anyone else I mostly know deals with text messaging, I don't have to worry about that.
He works out of state - perfect chance for him to also have another woman out-of-state. Its awful, but you really 'cannot' put a lot of trust in men without them hurting you.
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(Age:30 to 35)
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