How can you build the trust up with a female after you cheated?

I just got back together with my boyfriend of nearly 3 years. The reason we broke up was due to my lack of trust for him that eventually, once the cat got out of the bag, proved to be reasonable. I told myself time and time again that I should've trusted my intuition, he didn't have a cell and he would disappear from time to time and nobody knew (either that or just not tell me) of his whereabouts. One awkward day, his myspace comments had to be approved before they were displayed, this may seem trivial but on top of other contributing factors it just appeared shady. And he went to "Taco night" after work with my cousin every Monday. Turns out he was cheating and taco night was slang for strip club. After about a 5 month break we decided to get back together a month ago. I really do believe he is changed, call me naive. I know that what we have shouldnt be thrown away, but rather worked on instead, and I know that he is greatly remorseful for how he acted and hurt me. And quite frankly, I don't think he is stupid enough to lose me again, because he knows I will walk without having to look back if it is necessary. Now to a more relevant aspect of my answer, just the other day he called to say he was going for tacos with my cousin, which aside from strip clubs they've gone to taco bell many times after work for real. But my heart raced and my stomach turned because it brought back all of the feelings of betrayal. I asked him if he was really going for tacos and he said yes and asked me why I still don't trust him. My answer to him is the same for you: Its water under the bridge and although I forgive him (and I really do wholeheartedly), trust is difficult to rebuild, I may still ask questions about things that still sit uncomfortably to me but I told him not to confuse it with accusing. I also told him to be prepared for questioning in the future and that its all part of my healing and giving a new foundation to our trust. I also told him that it will take time. But each day goes by and as long as he does right by me, my trust will build. So I suggest that you have an open mind and realize that this may not be a smooth road to tread, but that doesn't mean the bums can't get paved over time. If you love her and she loves you, I suggest you guys stick it out and ill be rooting for you. =D

My boyfriend cheated on me almost 2 years ago, I still don't completely trust him . We have been talking about getting married, but I'm not going to marry him until I can trust him 100% . I wouldn't say things are messed up forever, but you have to give her time to heal and forgive you . If and when she can do that, things will get better for you two . You have to realize what she is going through . When you don't answer the phone right away, if you're 10 minutes late, etc-anything like that will get a mind rolling as to where you are and what you're doing .

You should first become friends again and like spend time with her . Then . You have to tell her exactly how you feel and don't forget anything . When you go out again make an effort to show her how much you love her and want to spend time with her all the time ( but don't be stalker-ish) once you've done that all girls love to feel like they are the only one and they don't like their guy being friends with other pretty girls who they don't know . But since that's not really possible . If you love her than you have to let the other girls who you cheated on her with go . Or else she will never trust you/

Speaking from experience my boyfriend cheated on my and we were going out for 3 months and I was stupid and took him back but we have been going out for a year and 5 months and we have some pretty good times together . I didn't let him off the hook that easy and I still don't have my 100 percent trust in him because I know that every time he talks to a girl or sees a girl I know what might be going through his mind . Bottom line is that it messes everything up even your relationship with that person . I didn't believe anything my boyfriend said because he lied to my face when I asked him if he cheated on my and he started crying to cover it all up and then I found out from his friends that it was true and then told him to his face that I know he did it .

Its really hard to get back that trust now . A lot of women have a theory of "Once a cheater, Always a cheater . " Which I'm sure you can understand why . So this could be the reason why she won't believe you at all . I honestly don't know if there's anything you can really do . But I think you have to remember that its not all about the gestures and expensive gifts . Really try and focus on proving yourself to her .
But why did you cheat on her ? And is that reason still going to be there if you got back with her ? I think you should really give this a lot of thought before you try and build up trust . Make sure that you know 100 % you won't do that to her again . Otherwise, Good luck .