How important is fidelity/faithfulness?

Firstly, I would say you should recognize that my answer is mostly affected by the situation I'm in right now, and by my age lol.
So I chose B since that would probably be closest to my actual reaction [I don't know for sure considering I've never actually been cheated on].
I put a lot of value on being exclusive and faithful; of course I want to know that this person loves me the most, that they chose me over everyone else and have promised to stay with me.
But at the same time, we're human and we're [or at least I am] young. That doesn't excuse everything, but I believe it means that we all at least deserve a second chance. And if we're assuming I'm in love, then I'm not about to give up on them that easily; you work hard for love in every other aspect, why not that one? It seems childish to say that you would never give them another chance just because of one instance, instead of at least trying to work it out. A 'cheater' is not a type of person, it's a compilation of feelings, problems, and situations.
I guess that veered off a little. Basically I'd be really hurt, obviously, if someone I loved cheated on me, but I think there's always a chance to make things better, and like hell if I'm not going to try.

If I'm not happy at home I seek it out elsewhere. I know this about myself therefore I don't beat around the bush... when I'm not happy and it can't be fixed I leave in order to avoid possible cheating.

If my man cheated on me the relationship would be over. That just shows he is not ready to settle down and still wants to mess with different girls. If that's the case why would I stay in a fake relationship? Once a cheater always a cheater. If they apologize usually they are only sorry they got caught.

As far as FWB, I think that is just cheap anyway. If you are not in a relationship then you are free to do what you want. You can't put restrictions on someone just because you want to be the only one f***ing them, it doesn't work that way. If they can't be with you 100% either leave it alone completely or just don't worry about what they do when they're not with you. If you feel that strongly about your FWB sleeping around then make it official.

I love my husband so much. I couldn't immediately give up on him or say that our vows were nullified by his actions. I would want to work on it with him... heal with him. I would probably blame myself (at first) - what did I do to drive him away? What am I not giving him that he needs to go to another woman for? Things like that. It would take a long time to rebuild that trust and the relationship would not be the same.

At the same time, if it becomes a common occurrence - it would become obvious to me where the fault lay. It would break my heart, but I would have to say goodbye.

I suppose it would also depend on if I had children. I would probably want to make it work more if we had kids.

i have a friends with benefits and at first I didn't mind if he was seeing others I just told him if he gave me something I would kill him. but its been around a year and half and for about 8 months now he's been tellin me he doesn't want me with anyone else so since he feels that way then I feel I should get the same in return plus now I done caught deeper fellings for him so I think if I were to see him with someone else I would probably slap the sh*t outta him. I think if I had proof he was sexin someone else I would cut him loose for good simply because he is tellin me not to do no one else.

In a relationship it is very important. If my man cheated it would be the end of the relationship. I could probably forgive him, but the relationship would never be the same again, therefore pointless so why waste my time. I would be done for sure.

If it were a FWB situation free love is just fine. Everyone loves friends, have all the FWB you want. But in a relationship commitment is very important.

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Where do I stand? On fidelity. If it's a commited boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.

Unfortunately when it's FWB there are a lot of gray areas. Like, for example, I know that my FWB hasn't hooked up with any other girls since we've been "together." In fact, the only reason we aren't "boyfriend-girlfriend" is because he's got some sh*t to figure out and deal with and he's gotta earn it from me. I'm not gonna be with someone as a back-up, I wanna be the real thing and the first choice and I deserve to be.

However, I myself have hooked up with other guys. Mostly while away on vaca. Not a lot, only like three in the past two years. So yeah...

If he had hooked up with other girls I DEF would not be ok with that, especially if he's trying to prove himself to me. But he knows about mine and yeah it bothers him but since he's the one not ready to make me HIS then he knows he just has to deal with it.

I chose A, but I think it really depends on the situation maybe? I chose A because that's the type of relationship I've always been in, where we both expect to only be with each other and no one else. Cheating really is the worst thing you can do to someone you're in a relationship with, I think. It's such a betrayal of trust. I would maybe say B, but it'd take me a long time to regain trust in my partner and it would depend on how long we've been together, the circumstances, etc. Definitely not C. That's just torturing yourself. I would say maybe D, if those were the rules of the relationship to begin with, same as E. I'd rather go with E and keep my options open as well, rather than D, where only my partner can go have sex with others. Of course, I'd only do those if that's what was agreed upon to begin with.

Now, I wonder how emotional cheating plays into all of this being faithful and loyal stuff. It's probably easier to hide and get away with, but I wonder how much people would tolerate that.

definitely infidelity = deal breaker!

A, most definately.

The thought of my boyfriend having feelings for another girl.. to the extent that he would even just KISS her.. makes me feel a bit sick.

If anyone did that to me I just don't know if I could cope.

Fidelty is the most important thing in a relationship. If that is broken, then there is no reason to be in a relationship. I believe relationships are to grow with that person, love them, and learn to like the positive things about them as well as their flaws. If you want to sleep around go with the whole f*** buddy thing, but in a relationship it is key that that you are in a relationship with that person and that person only. If my boyfriend was cheating on me and sleeping with another women, I would drop him so fast. I don't put up with that and I don't think anyone in a relationship should.

Complete deal breaker. I believe in complete and total faithfulness in a relationship. I love my husband more than anything, but I know I could never trust him again if he slept with someone else.

A defo. Maybe if I was in love with a guy and he cheated I might be able to forgive him. The once.

Even in FWB, you don't want your partner sleeping around.

If nothing, what about possibility of STD due to random partners?

A.

Because you end up hurting someone you love otherwise.

Also, HIV IS REAL, HPV often == Cervical Cancer, Hep kills, etc.

You never know what someone else has, and if you or your partner are sleeping around, you're likely to give them a disease that could harm their long term health. That's no joke man.

Option A

A.

I'd end it if they were sleeping around.

Not only is the fact that they are having sex with another person a problem, but whatever their problem is, they should be able to talk to me about it.

When someone cheats, they have a problem so big they can't talk about it with you. That ruins communication when you can't talk about what's on your mind, so that is what is more damaging in this equation.

I should add that its not healthy either, to not allow yourself to feel normal physical attraction for other women, or men. If you do so, you are repressing your normal instincts, and eventually if you don't allow yourself to be attracted to other women or men, you will lose attraction with the woman you're with. It is healthy and good, in long relationships, to explore other avenues, to keep the current relationship healthy...perhaps...

See that's just it.

I'm OK with the FWB relationships, so long as both sides of it know full well what they're getting into. At least then there are no surprises. On the subject of "open" relationships I for one would not personally go for it, but can understand people going for it. However I can only recommend people getting into it if they really think they can handle it. Though unfortunately most people can't. I've seen tons of people try and usually it's incredibly one-sided. In other words this kind of relationship is set up with one or both parties thinking all about themselves, like as in "Yes I get to fuck whoever I want" and forgetting that the other party is also allowed to fuck whoever they want too. Then when reality sets in, along comes the jealousy. They think that it's great to be able to make with the lovin' but out of territoriality, want their partner to only be with ONE person. Also in most cases there is jealousy and/or rule breaking of whatever the agreement was, which when you get right down to it is just cheating all over again. I think that sums up rather nicely what I think the problem with those kinds of relationships really is.

I prefer a real relationship to be more exclusive. In other words me and the girl only have sex with each other and nobody else. Yes I think being faithful is important. I think fidelity is key. Trust, and respect being the two most important important factors in a relationship after things like all the emotions you feel towards each other. This is why I voted A. In my opinion cheating is an automatic deal breaker. You are violating all trust in the relationship, and you are proving that you don't have enough respect for your partner to stay faithful to them. If someone absolutely must go off and fuck somebody else then at least have the common fucking decency to break up with the person you're dating.

I wish I had something wise to end this post with, but alas I don't. So I guess in this case I'm just going to leave it with me stating that I prefer to be exclusive. I hope this post helped you out a little in understanding where I "sit in the equasion.".

See you folks later.

I think the urge for fidelity amounts to a desire for one panacea, one solution, one single answer to all life's miseries. Things are never that simple though!

relationship with no trust or comitment is nothing more than fbuddys with a title. why be with someone if you can't be faithful to them? why sleep around when you have someone at home on the bed waiting for you?! I also find cheating the most disrespectful thing someone could do to me. its equivalent to someone sh*tting on my grave. its a low blow and really how little respect do you have for that person that your going behind their back and sleeping around not only that but lying to them saying you love them when really your just comfortable with them but tired of them and want to move on but don't know how to grow the balls to break it off. if my girlfriend did that to me I would drop her so fast id be gone before she hit the ground. but I don't have to worry about that and she feels the same way. we love each other and we both feel cheating is the worste thing you can do and loose total respect for them if they do do it..

My answer was based on the type of relationship I usually find myself in. Usually I'm in the "committed" type of relationship, and in that case I would be pretty mad about infidelity. If, however, it was made clear from the beginning of the relationship that it was an open one, or that we were just "friends with benefits", then fidelity wouldn't be an issue because we hadn't pledged fidelity to each other in the first place. basically, if someone wants to sleep around, it should be made clear up front that that is the type of relationship they are looking for. Otherwise, it's a betrayal of trust, and that's not ok.

Cheating is the worst thing you can do to someone because all of the different factors and emotions involved. If you're in a serious relationship they are most likely your best friend, someone you depend on the most and of course you find them sexually attractive. When they break that trust and go somewhere else it's hits you on all levels. I don't think I'd ever be able to trust them again and that would be a huge problem. It would be a deal breaker.

To me its really important because if I'm to give my heart to a girl, I've gotta know that I'm the only one that's in hers and that she's only going to be with me.

If my partner Cheats once...and is really sorry/beat up about it depending on the curcicmstances I might forgive her but she would have to earn back my trust...if it happens a second time then its over for good.

Definitely A. Once trust and respect are violated there is no more relationship.