Why girlfriend feels controlled?

I don't get it either man. If you're honestly just looking out for them or your relationship I don't see why they take so much offense to it. I wouldn't mind my girlfriend criticizing something I was doing if she really didn't like it or thought it'd get between us. I think the problem is that guys take it too far.

So really you just have to let it go. I've recently learned this after losing a special girl who I could trust 100% but still worried about this stupid sh*t.

You really don't have a right to tell her who she can hang out with or what she can wear if she's not doing anything wrong. Girls naturally like attention so they are going to wear what makes them feel attractive. As long as she is still with you, doesn't cheat or take it too far when she gets the attention, be happy.

It only feels controlling when you are told to do something instead of asked to do something with a specific reason in mind. "I'm jealous" isn't a good enough reason because it is putting your issues on the other person. Sometimes you just have to suck it up and trust the other person. Saying why your jealous, or why you'd prefer her not to do those things would be better, and at the end of the day, not pushing it if she chooses not to do as you requested. That is respect because in the end she is weighing out what you told her with what she feels is right for her, and at least she listened. But telling someone "do not hang out with that guy" or "don't wear such short skirts" does not come across as a request. It comes across as a demand. An example - if she hung out with that guy alone before you came along, and you are asking her to stop just because you now exist it makes her feel torn between loyalties and there is no way out because you are telling her to choose. You aren't saying why you dislike it, and asking her to keep it in mind and behave in such a way you don't have to worry.

IT is controlling. You have a girl who likes to wear short skirts and hang out a lot with guys alone and wear a bra to the gym. it bothers you.. Okay so find a girl who doesn't wear short skirts in public or hangs out with guys or wears a bra to the gym. Either that or accept it and trust her that she isn't trying to get other guys attention. If you think she is get another girl. Otherwise you sound like her dad.