and that is that no matter who you are,male or female, it seems in every relationship there's always one partner who loves the other a little more.Whether you're a guy or girl someone in the relationship gets heartbroken.I noticed so many times that people complain about they haven't found the one and usually the right person is probably in front of their face!The thing is the person that probably loves them is either a best friend, an ex, a current lover, ex lover,and so forth.But we always find ways to come up with an excuse as to why that person is not right for us.Most people have been guilty of this, not all.But at some point or another everyone has been through this on both sides, being the dumper or the dumpee.
The thing is if we just sat back and actually realized that if that best friend, or ex or FWB walked away and found someone else, how would that make you feel?Honestly.Most would say they wouldn't care but I would bet 90% would start to miss that person (unless the ex was dumped for a bad reason such as cheating.)
Depending on every persons history, it seems in nature we want what we can't have.We always strive for more.A better house, a better car, a better lifestyle, even a better partner.People always seem to want more and are never satisfied with what we have.Thus giving us the "grass is greener on the other side" complex but people have to know how to pick their battles.
My case in point is every relationship I've been in I have always noticed that the guys I've dated always want what they can't have.A perfect example is my last serious relationship which was over a year ago.It lasted 3 years, but through it all we had our good times and bad, but in the beginning of the relationship I was very much in love with him, but he wasn't as much in love with me and wanted to play the field.Eventually he came around and we stayed together for a while after that, but soon after I started to lose interest because I was so hurt from being taken for granted.Eventually I realized I could do better,& I moved on.Now were still friends but he still pines over me and tells me I was the best girlfriend he ever had.Now he wants me back but I've told him its over and we can only be friends.Its just the perfect example of someone wanting what they can't have.The same thing happened to me in the next relationship whom I dated this guy off and on for 9 months but nothing ever came of it.he chased after me and pursued and once I gave him a chance and I started to fall for him then he pulled away and told me he didn't want anything serious.Now a year later.I'm done with him and now he's always trying to find excuses to hang out with me & telling me he likes me a lot.After that I dated a guy for a month.things went too fast(all on his behalf)he told me he loved me & wanted to be with me long term even brought up marriage then soon after dumped me.
it just seems its the nature of the beast.People wanting what they can't have.So how do we solve it?And is there a way?
Im interested in this answer...can you elaborate on your view as how a relationship can be perfect if both people are as hot as each other? like how and why does/would that work? :P - 2 months ago
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Well if a girl likes a guy as much as he likes her, we have liftoff. Even the slightest mismatch will spell doom, right from the start. - 2 months ago
Wow dude...really rude....No call to be like that. If you had a serious question and someone came at you with that additude, you would really be disapointed...no wonder you are hiding behind "anonymous user...." - 2 months ago
Well the fact that you allow him to date you and not marry you naturally gives up your entitlement to respect from him. He is only taking advantage of you because you allow him too. The fact you have let him have sex with you before marriage means that there is NO reason for him to ever marry you. Marriage is not how the west makes it seems. Its not a solidifcation of love. It is the get to knwo each other than love each other later on down the road kind of thing. Sex is the ultimate goal for a man and security with a man is the goal for a women. When you give him sex and access to things only a husband should have you allow yourself to be a peice of meat. If you want a real man with REAL feeligns for you marry him and throw yourself at gods mercy and knwo the basics of him and if he is stable and mental stable and can provide for you. Other cultures and religions seem to live long happy marriages and lives much more so than the west. Ever heard of a hindu getting divorced? Me either and they marry someoen they have never even met. So obviously not knowing the person is the natural way of marriage. Muslims do it, jews, sikhs, hindus. and chrsitians used to. But the west has stripped people of any hope of true love and has basterdized what respect means.
I don't know what your beliefs are but I don't plan on marrying someone I don't even know!!And In Hindu cultures marriages are usually set up but does that mean that the couple are happy together?!!I think marriage is more based on finding your match, not to keep the species going!!! - 2 months ago
I think it gets easier to find solid relationships as you get older. You begin to appreciate different things...or at least that is the case for me...You learn how to give and take in relationships...learn to choose your battles...learn that not every thing is a major crisis...I think as you get older, you tend to take things more slowly...the priorities are different...It really becomes more of a matter of looking for someone who really is committed to the relationship...someone who works with ya instead of against ya. It becomes much more about finding someone who complements your life style, your personality, your interests...I found that when I was younger, things were more...superficial. Me...the guys I dated...was about looks and sex mostly... I don't know if this helps, but...it has been my experience. good luck to ya...
Well that's not what I'm into.Im actually looking for someone who I have things in common with and share similar goals. - 2 months ago
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Lol...hummmm...I thought that was what I was sayin....I mean that you do start finding people who are looking for that...similar goals and common interests...sorry I didn't make that clear, but, it is what I am trying to say. - 2 months ago
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Yah I know.I was just saying that a lot of people my age want to hook up and want materialistic things like you said you did when you were younger but I'm saying I'm already past all that stuff. - 2 months ago
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Lol...I see what you are saying..... Well, for what it is worth....there is hope for the future...just gotta weed thru the other ones first... - 2 months ago
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That is because they are young. People get into relationships too fast and confuse infatuation for love. And sometimes people do realize their mistakes.
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