Is he cheating?

Absolutely. He's definitely emotionally invested, and their conversation has crossed some serious lines. More than what he's saying, you gotta weigh what her response to his message would be. If he's being faithful to you, why would he be texting to that extent with another girl in the first place? I've got plenty of girl-friends but I've never said anything like that to any of them when I've been in a relationship.

Well, if he isn't cheating, it sure sounds like he wants to, and has every intention of doing so if he can. I would talk with him about it again. You need to decide if you want to stay with a man that you're not sure you can trust.

If he's not he sure is in the gray zone he shouldn't hide any conversations to any women from you. and of course any friend of his is a friend of yours so you should both be going to lunch together with her. you better watch him. going to lunch might just be code for something else.

Hes cheating 100%...sorry

Something like this happened with a teacher at my daycare, hmm. The funny thing was that she was pregnant, and the kid was his. She aborted it, sadly. I think that he was cheating. If he just wanted to make you mad, he wouldn't have done that. Guys make lame excuses.

Whether or not he has gotten physical with this woman or not, he is most certainly cheating by my definition. You know as well as I do that the text messages between them are more than a platonic friendship. He is completely disrespecting you. In a normal situation, I would say leave him and never look back, but the reality is that you have a child together which makes this situation a little more complicated. He's obviously denying all the accusations which will delay the opportunity to work things out with him if he can't even admit to being wrong. I think you should approach him and say that what he is doing behind your back is disrespectful but tell him that your willing to forgive him if he agrees to work on the relationship with you. How you say it is important. He seems like the type of guy who runs away from confrontation, so make sure to bring this up without letting your anger show, as hard as that may be. (I been in cheating situation and I know that there are points where you just want to scream and yell at the top of your lungs, but this will get you no where with this guy). If in the end he doesn't stop or can't accept that what he's doing is wrong, the only two options are to either put up with it for your child, or leave him and try to work it out on your own. I don't know your personal situation so I can't really give you any suggestions on that, but I really do hope everything works out for you.

Mango

My first question is how your relationship with your boyfriend is doing in general? He said he sent that text so that you would get mad. Why would he want you to be mad at him? That doesn't sound very healthy at all. Unless that was a straight up lie, I think that matter might be something you should think about especially.

Taking another woman out to lunch, is different than hanging out and eating lunch with her. If he's paying for it, that's slightly more worrisome than if they're both meeting up and getting lunch. Though honestly, considering the text messages, I would sit down with him and talk everything out. Be honest, and let him know that you care and you want to work things out with him. Ask him why he wanted you to be mad. Also, I would mention to him that it's kind of shady for him to be sending those text messages just to "make you mad" and then taking that girl out to lunch and wanting to hang out with her.

You may have come up with some conclusions already, but I would try to talk and work things out with him as soon as possible.