What would she have to do for you to take her back?

Be patient, that's the key.

Honestly with relationships on both sides if people are adult and serious when trust or personal intimacy gets broken it rarely if ever gets fixed honestly.

You can't do anything other then just be patient, supportive and calmly there as a gentle reminder of what is good and really there.

I agree that you didn't cheat (moved a tad fast but didn't cheat, he needs to realize the power of his words) part of me wonders if he knew the guy since you did it in a mater of hours that makes it seem likely. If so then that's going to put the breaks on this even more so.

Honestly your 25-29 years old, if he really cares about you deeply he shouldn't care other then your his and want to be with him. The fight sounds a bit childish and I am afraid the repair will be so as well.

My advice, be a great freind and if he says it's over apologize one last time and say you understand then date someone else.

The absence will remind him what he had (it's childish I admit but honestly the fight seems to fit) and you could be very surprised that he wants you back.

My advice is find someone who doesn't breakup so dramatically and wants you no mater what. I fell for a girl hard once and can tell you I didn't care who she slept with prior as long as she was with me going forward from this point on that's all I wanted. I loved her more then anyone before and can say that is what you want to find in a guy. The rest is just more trouble down the road.

Sorry. I wish I could help more.

i don't blame him, bit immature on your part...

Well first of all if the first thing you do when things tank with a long-time boyfriend is run out and sleep with someone else then then I don't blame him for not being able to trust you. Especially if he really had to work at it to get you to sleep with him in the first place. That is a hell of a kick in the nuts.

Now to get him to forgive you, you will have to rebuild that trust and that won't be an easy task. You can't make some grand gesture and expect him to up and trust you again. Your best bet is to keep talking with him as a friend and just be there for him. After a while he may trust you enough to give you another chance. Right now he is hurt and offended and that kind of pain doesn't go away quickly or easily.

To be honest if he is smart he isn't going to make this easy for you. Nothing against you, but cheaters tend to cheat again.

hi. I know you have probably figured out what to do already and if you don't read this I completely understand but there is something you have to know. IF HE LOVES YOU HE WONT CARE ABOUT WHAT YOU DID AND HE WOULDN'T WANT TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS. sorry if this sounds mean and if you haven't sorted it already then I'm sorry but good luck. if you want to talk to someone I am here for you x cameron <3

Its a sad situation and its good that you have learned from your mistakes.

Its a terrible pity though. It sounded like you had something together which is rare.

I feel from what you are telling me, is that he is or was having a relationship behind your back. If he broke up with you before you had a relationship with another person, then it is obvious somethings wrong. Rarely does getting back together ever work out. I know that we all would love to believe that but we got to be adults about this and face facts...He broke up with you !

It's going to depend on him as a person. Personally there is nothing a girl could do for me to take her back. Once she's broken my trust that's it. However there are plenty of people who do forgive and forget and go on to be happy. All you can do is show him how much he means to you without acting like a stalker. If he does forgive you it has to be completely genuine, so many people say they do and then throw it back in the others persons face during every argument.

I think you made a silly mistake but I also think that you do genuinely love him. Maybe show him what you have put on here? That would let him know you are serious about how you feel and about being sorry.

OK, so it's usually not a good idea to sleep with someone that soon after a break-up... but that's for your own good, not because you owe anything to your ex-boyfriend. I don't see how you did anything wrong to him. He dumped you! That means he doesn't get to tell you what to do with your life. It's not like you cheated on him or left him for someone else.

Hell, you even had enough guts to be honest about it, even if it did take a couple of weeks. If I was in his shoes, I'd be mad at myself for breaking up with you in the first place. Of course I'd feel jealous, but I wouldn't blame you for anything. I'd try to get over my own insecurities and remind myself that you're a real catch. You told him the truth, in person, and are making a serious effort to rebuild trust and help him get over his hurt feelings. What more can you ask from a girlfriend?

I hate to say it, but I don't think this guy is boyfriend material - at least, not right now. If he thinks you should feel guilty for not being faithful *after* he dumped you, he's too self-absorbed to date anyone seriously. I'd give him a little time so you can both cool off a bit and he has a chance to get over himself since you're probably both still sort of in shock. But if he still acts like you did something bad to him, I'd start thinking about breaking up with him.

If it were me there would be nothing you could do. I would never forgive her or trust her again. Since when is sleeping with someone a good idea after a breakup? I'm sure you didn't randomly find a guy on the street and sleep with him. Which tells me and your ex that you probably had it in mind or had been flirting with the idea during your relationship. If not the fact that you get around that easily says something about you.

The only thing you can do now is give hm time. if he wants to get back with you, he'll let you know.

You just need to live day to day and build his trust again slowly, you can't undo a mistake like that quickly or easily. You seem to feel guilty and sorry so I would guess that in time, the two of you will get back to the point you was at and move on.

Good luck honey! I hope you find someone who truly respect what you have to offer.

hey you reacted - your human he was looking for an excuse anyway - this just set you free a little quicker without months of endless pandering to his whims - It was fine when you were apart he just couldn't face the reality of all the time - he wasn't hurt he was releived and playing hurt - think of this as a huge piece of luck - who needs a man like that !

Hey girl, you have to note this:

You guys were BROKEN up when you had sex with that other guy.
He has not right to know that you did it with him. He was no longer your boyfriend at the time.
So actually, that was nice enough for you to admit it but you guys never cheated technically. Yes you regret it because you broke up with him immediately before you had sex with this random guy. But really, it is not his concern to know that.

I would write him emails, hand-written letters, etc. Tell him what you just wrote here. Tell him that deep in your heart and soul you know that you made a stupid mistake, and the last thing you wanted to do was hurt him. Tell him that you'll spend the rest of your life making it up to him.
But don't expect any replies. Just give him some space. He is angry right now but he will calm down. He will still be hurt but he will have some room in his mind to listen to you once he calms down. So once in a while, drop him an email or something to show that you are sorry and you care about him.
That's all you can do. That's all I can come up with. If somebody did this to me, I would want that.