my boyfriend has a little girl that stays with us monday thru friday, I am the one who watches her and takes care of her everyday. I don't have any of my own kids and i really want one in the future but now I am thinking I don't. I really don't want her around any more, she lies and doesn't listen I know she is only 5 but its hard to deal with. and when he gets home he talks to her and it takes all he has to deal with her and I get ignored. I don't want her around any more unless he helps out watching her. is that bad? without me she wouldn't be able to stay here cause I take care of her from the time she wakes up till she goes to bed, but with her here I don't want to be.
I think you're in a bit of an awkward situation, you've basically been left in charge of a kid that's not yours like a nanny. You shouldn't let this affect your own want of children in the future because I think that would be a different situation where you are the actual mother and not the babysitter. Regarding your bf's daughter, you are going to need to decide what you want in your own life. (Yeah some people may label you as selfish, but I say you're pretty selfless to be looking after someone else's kid five days a week.) If you're unhappy with the current situation with you, your boyfriend and his daughter then you're probably going to have to leave. You can't ask him to choose between him and you (you probably wouldn't like the outcome if you did), so really it's your only choice if you want a change.
If I ask him to choose and he picks her he can't have her there as much, he still pays the mom child support each month and can't afford a babysitter right now. if it was maybe two days a week it be ok but either way he picks he will loose me and her it seems like. is it rude to ask to have her less amount of time? - 29 days ago
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No it's not rude because it involves your life, you didn't sign up to play babysitter five days a week. - 29 days ago
yeh if you don't think the kids going to gow on you, don't continue the realtionship, because tension isn't good between daugter and step mom especially when the dad in the middle.
maybe with time she will learn to behave with you. all kids are brats till they figure out that 1. ur a nice person who deserves repect. or 2. it's just a better idea to listen to you.
Ok you have to calm down she is 5 and I know you don't have kids. Around the age of 2 to 7 they think if they don't lie they will be in trouble but you have to teach her she can tell the truth anytime. You have to let the dad know that you deserve more of his time and you feel neglected. Don't leave him he really needs you or you wouldn't be the primary care of the girl. Things can turn around if you speak out.
That is not your child. Why can't your boyfriend take care of his own daughter? That is not your responsibility. Where is her real mother? Either way you are doing too much, that little girl is not your daughter so you shouldn't have to be the one raising her. Your boyfriend sounds selfish as hell. To be honest if it was me, I would go shopping one day early in the morning and leave her all to him. He can't say anything because you are not obligated to take care of her while he goes on about his life. I'm sure there are a million other things you could be doing.
Tell your boyfriend how you feel. He should appreciate you more and stop using you like a permanent babysitter.
thats tough...but the first thing is to talk about it. I don't think your in the wrong though. Its even harder if she goes home to mom on the weekends. Can't you talk to him about putting her inot a preschool?
She is from 8-11 two days a week it is alittle break but just enough to get house clean agian so she can mess it up again. - 29 days ago
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You need to be honest now before it ends up in a massive fight over his little girl. Tell him you need more time alone, that you need to put her in for another day. Or when he gets home, get out of the house more...if he has no responisbility for her, make him. When he gets home its his turn. let him get worn out and sad aobut not getting your attention. - 29 days ago
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Like today he owns his own buiness they had no work today but he left as soon as she woke up he said he has something important to do. I said ok so for a suprise we brought him breakfast and he was sitting around with his friends doing nothing I go mad and told him I was going to clean he needed to watch her and left. she is getting into everything and being horrible he asked me to come get her I said when he comes home bring her, he is mad but he isn't working he is just getting away. - 29 days ago
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