What's a soldier supposed to do?

My opinion, well I'm a currently dating a marine. I have no issue with what he does. But it becomes a long distance relationship more often than not. Not something I am particularly fond of. You get all the normal issues plus the ones from being deployed and all the worry she is going to go through. Being with someone in any military service is a hard relationship. She may not cherish the idea of you being deployed in Iraq again. When you're deployed you can't always keep in the best contact and that does create a fair amount of stress. There are a thousand what if that will run though her mind about what may happen to you. If you guys are starting a family that is something she will have to with you, not ideally planned. Put yourself in her place.

It is great that you feel a sense of duty to your country. I really admire you.

If you were still single, I would say, go ahead and go back. However, you made a commitment to your wife when you got married. You already served your country and now your duty is to your family.

Being a single wife/mom while a guy is deployed is very, very tough. I can understand why your wife feels the way she does.

I think you should consider why you want to go back. Do you miss your friends? Do you feel like you are bored right now? Try joining some clubs (sports, volunteering, etc) and meet new people. Maybe you could even do some volunteer work to help returned veterans? If you do feel dissatisfied with your lifestyle right now, I would talk to a counsellor to help to figure out ways to deal with this. Good luck.

I don't know if I would say you're being selfish but you can't truly blame her for not wanting you to reenlist in the military. How can you hold together a relationship if your not there and have limited communication? The question you need to ask yourself is which one you love more, your country or your wife...

MY opinion, not yours.
Cheers.

I understand it must be a tough position, you have two loyalties: your loyalty for your wife and your loyalty for the army/your country. I understand that.
However, don't you think you've already done A LOT for your country? Don't you think you've been very actively honoring your loyalty towards it? Wouldn't it be time to finally honor your loyalty to your wife and be a full-time husband ..? There are other ways to love and support your country than going to the army. Some that don't involve leaving your wife and risking your life. I totally understand your wife and it seems like if you love the army so much that you would rather GO BACK than stay with your wife, then you are married to the army and not to your wife. I'm sorry but you did more than enough active support for your country in my opinion, now is the time to honor the contract of marriage.