So I finally got the courage to tell this girl I have liked for quite a while now that I liked her, and I don't usually do these kind of things unless I am almost certain she likes me back. Anyway I just straight up told to her that I liked her in a very nervous voice and All I got was, Awwww it wasn't that hard to tell me right? Then she said, "it'll be alright" and smiled and I was like to myself WHAT?!?! is that supposed to mean...anyways afterwards we just continued studying and talking about usual stuff...what's up there? is she still confused about something or just a polite way to say she doesn't like me back hmmm...girls are so confusing :S
Update: The other day I offered to drop off some lunch for her to uni, she didn't hesitate at all, she wouldn't be using me or taking advantage knowing that I like her is she? I don't think she is that kind of person, though I could be wrong :S
13 days ago
Well, I give you credit for talking to her. I agree with sweet18 that she probably does not feel the same way as you.
I wouldn't offer to do favors like drop off lunch for her unless you would do it for any friend. This will will end up with you feeling used and annoyed. If someone offered to drop off lunch for me, I would accept and not even think about whether the person might be expecting something in return! She might want to accept any favors you offer to avoid making you feel rejected, so keep that in mind.
Like I said, it's great that you had the guts to approach this girl, but in future I suggest being a little less direct so that things don't become awkward if the girl is not interested. Instead of coming right out and saying, "I like you", try approaching, then making some small talk, then saying something like "I'm thinking of seeing that new movie this weekend, want to come?". If you are thinking that the girl does like you and you feel like you've both been flirting, THEN you would want to say, "I really enjoy your company, want to do something this weekend?" to move things to the next level.
Yeah probs right, though see she has claimed to me before that she is a shy girl, and still being in college she didn't want to date cos her parents wouldn't allow it (she's of Asian decent so makes sense). But yeah probs just wishful thinking on my part, she seems to be a lot more nervous and giddy around me lately but txts me more and tells me about her day all the time as though I was her boyfriend or something....sigh I don't know it's very complicated or maybe I'm just making it out to be? - 13 days ago
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Idk. If I said something like that, it would be because I didn't like you as much as you like me... - 13 days ago
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Yeah I suppose it depends on the girl hey? That's why girls are sooooooo confusing I wish it could just be like, Hi I like you, do you like me? Yes ok lets date and happily ever after LOL XD - 13 days ago
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Ok well I'm gonna say this as my final answer after giving this some thought. I think she likes you but she doesn't know if she wants to date you.
And yeah I wis things could be simple too. - 13 days ago
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That could be the case, I probs asked her at the worse time as she is in uni finals at the moment so that could be one of the reasons, but I don't know I tend to think to deep in to these things, hence why I am here LOLS I wish I didn't though as it tends to make things more complicated in the long run, but thanks for some insight, I'd ask my friends in real life but they are also friends of my crush so it could end up badly haha - 13 days ago
hm I don't know, this is like one of the cases where guys wished they could slap women for being so mysterious. Anyways if I were you, I would have actualy asked her if she could be your girl friend. I don't know. Sometimes you gotta step it up... but if you really feel that she does not feel the same way, maybe you should stop persuing this relationship.
Same thing is coming up shortly with me, too, and if I were to get an "Aww, was it that hard now? *smile*" ... gosh... I didn't know how to continue at all... "It will be alright" honestly, wtf is this supposed to mean... now body language from her while saying this things would mean a huge deal... and I don't know about that since I wasn't there. But generally I would suppose that her words mean the following things: 1) She knew for quite some time you liked her 2) She is fine with you liking her 3) She wants to continue hanging out with you (4) eventually though she just doesn't share the same closeness of feelings as you do just yet)
Given the assumption those 4 points are correct. Spent more time with her, ask her out on a date. After all, you asking her out to do something fun after confessing IS a date. Maybe just have dinner or a movie night, there are a lot of options you could choose. It's totally up to you.
And when saying goodbye that evening, maybe go in for the kiss. I doubt she'd refuse it. Wish you the best of luck
Since then I have been hanging out in one on one situations though they were never really official dates. However I have been treating her differently than I used to, a little more flirtatious and what not. I complimented her saying I like her new dress, I think she was a little embarrassed cos kind of shyly looked away then I placed my hand on her shoulder and asked her if she was ok " she said yeah I'm fine and thanks" her face was as red as a tomato. - 13 days ago
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Then when we went to go get coffee I paid for her which I don't usually do and she went all red again and started getting all giddy coming up with some random cute stuff it was out of character - 13 days ago
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Well, I suppose you simply need to ask yourself if you want to be friends or if you really want more. And in case you decide for a relationship you need to let her know. Let her know that you feel for her to be more than just a friend. And that you WANT to be MORE than just friends. There is just no "nice smile" as an answer. And to me this is the only way you will finally become sure about her feelings, too ;) - 13 days ago
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Well I don't really want to push her, she is quite the shy girl, and she is very busy with both uni and work as finals are coming up and she's been studying like a mad person! But at least now the ball is in her court, I'll let her decide how she feels, who knows I might grow on her hopefully haha - 13 days ago
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I don't really want to push it at the moment because she is extremely busy with work and uni finals coming up, she is a really shy girl and is quite hard to read I must say. But either way the ball is in her court so I'll let her decide what to do with it next, I suppose I'll just let things fall in to place and hopefully it turns out good haha - 13 days ago
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That's why I said you need to decide what you want. Because trust me, if you want to be more than friends... just sticking around her won't do it... that's where I am right now and it's not my favorite position to be in. And that's why I'm concentrate on getting some guts to be able to tell her. - 13 days ago
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Oh so you haven't actually told her yet? I think you should man I felt kinda better afterwards and felt more inclined to treat her differently to a friend and so far it's been pretty good hey! :) Go for it mannn! - 13 days ago
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